？？？先写一个疑问点 有句话不太理解 希望看懂的朋友能帮忙讲下它的结构和意思 (#^.^#)

Often they have to do with the emotions that we were taught were inappropriate growing up.

Thinking

  作者在这一章把人的自我认知（self-awareness）划分为三个层次。1.情绪 2.分析出情绪产生原因的能力 3.个人价值观

  “this level, which takes constant questioning and effort, is incredibly difficult to reach”

  是的。在我看来，身边能达到第二层的人已经屈指可数。第三层难的原因就在于，有些东西存在于人们的潜意识里，将其挖掘出来就像被问1+1等于几的问题，一方面觉得没有回答的必要，一方面又因为无法给出一个合理的解释而痛苦。这个偏哲学性的理论我今天读书时想了很久，最终试着写了下面的例子。希望有同感的朋友能与我探讨我对这件事体现出价值观剖析是否正确，或者是否有其他解。

A recent example from my own life:

“I feel anxious and angry when I can’t read the book quickly.”

Why?

“I have read an English book before and it’s more difficult than this one as Eric says. But I find my reading speed become slower than before.”

Why does “reading slower” make you anxious?

“Because I want to improve my English skills as fast as I can, but the statement makes me feel I can’t achieve my goal as I expect.”

Why does your lack of goal feel like a failure?

“because I think I should get in return after I have made my effort, if not, it turns out the things I did are of no value. ”

  写到这其实能看出，虽然一直嘴上讲注重过程，但其实我对结果也很介意。

  不过这个理论对我而言不太实用。一来我觉得时间宝贵，花适量时间思考哲学问题即可；二来有些价值观即使想明白了也很难改变（比如想要趁年轻抓紧时间学习和成长，你现在跟我讲结果不重要重要的是过程我听不进去）。在自己有足够的执行力改变的时候，倒不如想想解决措施。如这个问题，我后来分析了下自己阅读速度变慢的原因，是1、kindle版不如纸质版方便标记，一时间没有形成阅读习惯。2、下载了anki之后特别喜欢用…但是整理记忆库是很费时间的。所以我开始用笔标注、除了重点词汇其他不用anki以后，就快起来了…= =

  此外，还有第二个地方我不太认同作者的观点——关于如何看待逆境的问题。乐观是没有错的，因为对事乐观才能维持一个比较平和的心态，这是好事。直面不幸的遭遇，产生压力大、焦虑、过度悲伤等情绪，才会引起健康问题。问题不是出在stay positive，而是无论乐观还是悲观，你能否从自己的经历中发现问题，然后调动执行力去解决它。

words

Tide

潮汐；潮流，趋势；（尤指不好的）势头

eg：In the closing months of 1944,after almost a decade of war,the tide was turning against Japan.

There’s no way we can process the tidal waves of information flowing past us constantly.

Metric

度量标准

eg：Two things are operating here: a value that I hold dear, and a metric that I use to assess progress toward that value.

Perceive

if you perceive something, you see, notice, or realize it, especially when it is not obvious.注意，察觉到

If you perceive someone or something as doing or being a particular thing, it is your opinion that they do this thing or that they are that thing  看做，认为

eg: Everything we think and feel about a situation ultimately comes back to how valuable we perceive it to be.

perception n.理解、看法