TED: How to ask for help and get a yes.如何求助
If you need help, you are going to have to ask for it. out loud
如果你需要帮助,请大声说出来。
first thing: when you ask for help, be very very specific about the help you want and why
首先,当你在求助时,一定要准确的阐述你需要的帮助和原因。
second: avoid disclaimers like " I'm so, so sorry that I have to ask you for this" or "I really hate bothering you with this"
第二点:求助时要避免用一下的用语像是:“很抱歉,我不得不向你提出这个要求”或者“我真的很讨厌用这个来打扰你。”
by the way, when you have a relationship with someone, help one another is actually a natural part of that relationship
顺便提一句:互相帮助也是增进关系的好方式,不必为麻烦身边的人而感到不舒服。
third rule: don't ask for help over email or text
第三点:不要通过邮件或者短信求助。
last one: when you ask someone for their help and they say yes, follow for their help and they say yes, follow up with them afterward.
最后很重要的一点:当我们寻求别人的帮助并得到肯定回答时,事后与他们保持联系。
What is rewarding about helping is knowing that your help landed.
获得帮助的回报是知道你的帮助落实了,它产生了影响。