Zeng Guofan, the success of his career from the learned. Military: knot hard Walled, dumbfight. Man, things matter. Work, focus on the moment.

An effective precondition for this irrespective thinking is that individuals must have a pattern. Otherwise it is a selfish small character. Patterns include: ideals, values. The most important values ​​are honest, can truly see themselves, can sincerely treat others. Even if others bully you, also admitted that it is the inevitable result of the strength gap. Can be honest, in fact, put yourself in an invincible position, because my ass clean.

Be the first to make yourself invincible in the military and secondly to find an opportunity to defeat you. Stabilize their foundation, regardless of life or love, do not rely on the gifts of others, have their own foundation, and others in collaboration with their own way. Second, to remove one's own delusional thoughts, delusion is to establish a goal that one must rely on others to achieve. The goal of life, we must be able to achieve through their own.

When a person wants to accomplish great things, but need to deal with people around, what to do? A broad-minded, can matter, regardless of how others usually treat you, what to do what to do, around the core goals, not by personal feelings of their own. However, some people are not prepared for being over-prepared for death because your judgment and behavior must be wrong at this time. Once you have a knot in your heart, your behavior will be deformed. Each other's heart will knot, and then his behavior will be deformed. In the end, the two sides will surely burst out of conflict. How to determine whether excessive vigilance? Look at their own behavior, you are not always thinking: how others look at me? Is it always the case that attention to things is handled? What to do on how to deal with the matter, regardless of the people around resolutely. The conclusion is: I do not care about having owned, do not care forever, I just what to do.

成功者不纠结

    曾国藩，一生事业的成功来自于学问。军事：结硬寨，打呆战。为人，就事论事。做事，专注于当下。

    这种不管不顾的想法行之有效的前提条件是：个人一定要有格局。否则用了就是自私自立的小人物。格局包括：理想、价值观。价值观最重要的是诚，能真实看清自己、能真诚对待别人。即使别人欺负你，也承认那是实力差距带来的必然结果。能做到诚，其实就把自己立于了不败之地，因为自己的屁股干净。

    军事上首先把自己立于不败之地，其次才是找机会打败你。 扎稳自己的根基，无论生活还是爱情，不依赖于别人的恩赐，有自己立身的根基，和别人协作有自己的方式。其次，去除自己的妄念，妄念即树立一个必须依赖他人才能实现的目标。人生的目标，一定要能够通过自己实现。

  当一个人想成就伟业，但需要对付身边的人时，怎么办？心胸宽广，能就事论事，不论别人平时是如何对待你，该做什么就做什么，围绕核心的目标，不被私人感情影响自己。不过分防备别人，过分防备就是作死，因为这时候你的判断和行为一定是错的。一旦你的心里有了疙瘩，你的行为就会畸形，对方心里就会结疙瘩，然后他的行为也会变形，最后双方一定会爆发冲突。如何断定是否过分警惕了？看一下自己的行为，你是不是总在想：别人怎么看我？处理事情的注意力是不是一直保持在事上？事情该么处理就怎么处理，坚决不管周围的人怎么看待。总结就是：我不在乎曾经拥有，也不在乎天长地久，我只管该做什么。

  回到核心话题，纠结就是：你想要前行，但被过去牵绊着，被未来恐吓着。就像地上有条半米宽.5米长的路，你走过去肯定没问题，但路两边都是悬崖，你还能走过去么？好多人就这样纠结了一辈子，你要做的唯一的事就是：沿着自己的方向，鼠目寸光、专注于当下，就把当下该做好的事做好。社会进步有个永恒的真理：发展带来的问题靠发展去解决。个人发展也是：往前走的时候，你会慢慢发现，过去会是动力，未来一片大好。

    总结三句话：

1.曾国藩说的：未来不迎、当时不杂、过往不恋

2.刘春：不问是非、埋头业务、屁股干净、尽力协作