I have such kind of partner who likes to throw cold water on me. This partner is my husband.

Last week, we talked through wechat, he asked me what did I do recently,I told him my colorful life:took part in the meeting of toastmaster, delivered ACB speech one by one ,had organized the 6th anniversary party of Qingdao TMC, and planned to open my wechat-shop. He asked me suddently: How about your learning of driving? Did you pass the driving exam of project 2?How about your wechat-shop?Only planning? He always managed to say the wrong things. I didn’t know how to answer him, because I had not learned driving for 2 months after failing the1st driving exam of project 2, and I added none product in my wechat-shop,so I just kept silent. He continued to criticize me that my ideas and plans were too many ,and criticized I didn’t know which were the important things for me,in the end,he threw me a sentence coldly :You are useless at all. What a bad husband he is!

My husband’s words irritated me, I argued with him at that time, I explained: I liked Toastmaster ,I liked making speech,I should organize the 6th anniversary party of Qingdao TMC because I was VPPR, That was my responsibility. Blablabla…

As you know I was a good speaker trained in Toastmaster, so my husband was defeated in this quarrel, but my husband mocked me and said: it really needed to lift a brand in front of the meeting room of Toastmaster, writing: searching for a nice wife? Please bypass!

Actually, I was angry at that moment, I complained my husband that he did not see my improvements and achievements through my effort. So, I did not talk with my husband for 2 days! During the 2days I thought a lot, at last, to my surprise, I changed my ideas of complaining my husband, but began to appreciate him. Do you know why? I thought what my husband said might be right, I really had too many ideas and plans distracted a lot of my energy, and I really did not know which were the important things for me, so I asked myself: More is better? Isn’t right? What did I do to spend my whole day? I found I did a lot of trifles of no use, while something which was very important for me had not been done. What my husband said gave me enlightenment,I should learn to choose which is important for me at present ,just like what Yaohua said in his speech of contest. The only standard of choosing is whether you really really want or not, if you choose, then, focus your whole energy on the key things, and get rid of other things.

After thinking, I found at first I should pass the driving exam of project 2 asap., because my husband hoped to buy a car for whole family , so we needed a professional driver urgently,so I connected my driving coach to continue learning driving, Secondly,I really wanted to combine the English and traditional Chinese medicine together, so my bilingual wechat-shop of 诚益养生 Hone-BeneHealth was a very good combination,so I tried to add new products and write articles in my wechat-shop.

After two days of cold war, my husband contactedme and said:Dear honey, congratulation, I saw your articles in your wechat-shop,you did very well!

I replied politely with “hehe”: thanks,do you think I am still useless? Whatever, thanks a lot for your words, which gave me enlightenment.

My husband puzzled and said:I can’t understand what you said.

I said: I also can’t feel warm by what yousaid.

My husband said: It is meaningless if you always quarrel with me.

I said: It is also meaningless if you always throw cold water on me.

My husband said: Ok,I am wrong, please forgive me.I won’t do it again.

I said: ok,I forgive you.

But actually, I do appreciate my husband a lot, because when you feel everything good in your life, when you are flattered in your life, you really need someone to throw cold water on you, and say “you are useless at all.”, to let you realize which is important for you at present.