Security

   There has always been a lot of people asking me: Why do you always run? And my answer every time is: I do not know, do not feel ran panic, an inexplicable panic. Later I learned that my habitual running, sleeping in the bedroom with quilts and anxiety in the first place was originally a sign of lack of security.

   How important is it to one person's safety? In the Maslow hierarchy of needs, the sense of security is ranked second, second only to physiological needs. And for myself, if life is like a ball, the sense of security determines the integrity of the ball, and if it has any flaws, it does not roll easily. Unsecured people often have a sense of distrust of themselves and others, and they are often in anxiety. They are always in the mood of fear, afraid to lose, fear of failure, and they must be left alone The state of continuous work only peace of mind. In modern society, most people get rid of the embarrassing embarrassment in their material life. However, there are still many people with different degrees of lack of security. What are the reasons?

    In my opinion, this is the family, on the one hand, and on the other.

    For the family, the more I grow up, the more deeply felt. As I mentioned at the outset, I always like to go to bed with my head because the parents are always at home when I was a child. Because of the fear of the night, I always turn on the lights. I think there is something in the room Is a ghost or a bad guy, so he wrapped himself tightly wrapped in a quilt. Almost everyday, so when you grow up unconsciously hide yourself in the quilt. When I was young, I did not think anything was wrong. However, as I grew up, as I became more and more knowledgeable and in need of more and more, I found my parents were becoming more and more impatient with my affairs and I had seen them on my face more than once The way it hurt me deeply, so I do not want to trouble the parents, blindly want to rely on their own strength. However, in my tense studies, I added one after another a burden on myself, followed by a more cautious, more anxious and painful, and often weary, emotion. Therefore, a good family is an important factor for the child's sense of security. A complete and beautiful home is the basis for children to be based on the society. A good family education is an inherent manifestation of the child's self-confidence and sunshine. Home is a place formed by the concept of one person. When she fails, she encourages them in time and embraces them when she is sad, so that he can form a trust in the world in her consciousness so that she can have a stronger heart to deal with changes. Like an egg, once it is cracked, it can be hard to repair it and its ability to bear the burden also drops.

   In addition to the initial factor of family, one's own sense of security is also a major factor. Psychological research shows that a person has no absolute sense of security and we must admit that this world is simply not safe at all. Therefore, in addition to being protected by others, we must learn to give ourselves a sense of security. Is to make yourself stronger? Still more hard to pursue the wealth of material life? I think both have both, but not none. Importantly, the real sense of security can only come from one place, that is your heart. A person who has a sense of security does not necessarily occupy the most stable resources in the community, but must occupy such a talent: he does not care about it, does not hesitate about it, he is not afraid of losing, he does not pursue hard things and thinks that everything is his own In the event of nothing, it does not matter. Get enough on the go, fearless to lose heart. Because wealth is endless, you can not material alone, if the pros and cons make you painful, then why is it alive? This is what you should do if you try your best to make yourself better at the same time.

    If you have a beautiful family please cherish, if not, please do not regret, hard to learn, hard life, learn to accept and brave, return you, will be a solid sense of security.

安全感

  一直以来总是有很多人问我：为什么你总是在奔跑?而我每次的回答都是：我也不知道，感觉不跑就很慌，一种莫名其妙的慌。后来我才知道，我的习惯性奔跑，晚上蒙着被子睡觉，遇事焦虑，原来都是缺乏安全感的表现。

  对于一个人来说安全感到底有多重要？在马斯洛需求层次理论中，安全感被排在了第二位，仅次于生理需求。而就我自身来说，如果把生活比作一个球，那安全感的有无则直接决定了这个球的完整性，若是它有任何的缺陷，就不能自如的滚动。没有安全感的人，常常会对自己和他人产生一种不信任感，他们会常常处于焦虑之中，他们总是有种恐惧的情绪，害怕失去，害怕失败，以至于必须让自己处于一种不断工作的状态才心安。现代社会，大多数的人在物质生活上摆脱了困窘尴尬的局面，但是依然有很多人不同程度的缺乏安全感，原因是什么？

    就我看来，这一方面在于家庭，一方面在于自身。

    对于家庭这一方面，我愈是长大，愈是感触深刻。就像一开始提到的，我总喜欢蒙着头睡觉，原因就在于小时候晚上爸妈总不在家，出于对黑夜天生的恐惧，我便总开着灯，屋子里有一点动静我都以为是有鬼或者是有坏人，于是把自己紧紧地裹在被子里缩成一团。几乎每天都是这样，于是长大了便不自觉的把自己藏在被子里。小时候没觉得有什么不妥，但是长大之后，随着见识越来越广，需求越来越大，我发现父母对于我的事愈发吃力，我不止一次的见到过他们脸上暮色苍茫的样子，那深深地刺痛着我，于是我便诛事都不想麻烦父母，一味地想要依靠自己的力量。但紧张的学业中，我便给自己加了一份又一份的负担，随之而来的，是愈加胆小谨慎，愈加焦虑痛苦，甚至常常有厌世的情绪。所以说好的家庭对于孩子有无安全感来说是重要因素，一个完整美好的家是孩子立足于社会的基础，好的家庭教育是孩子自信阳光的内在表现。家是一个人三观形成的地方，在她失败时及时鼓励，难过时给予拥抱，会让他在意识中形成对世界的信任，从而能有更强大的内心去应对万千变化。就像一个鸡蛋，一旦出现裂缝，便很难再修补，承受重担的能力也会随之下降。

  除了家庭这一初始因素外，自身给自己的安全感也是一大因素。心理学研究表明，一个人没有绝对的安全感，我们必须承认的是，这个世界本就是不安全的。所以除了被别人保护之外，我们要学着自己给自己安全感。是让自己变得强大？还是更努力的去追寻物质生活上的财富？我想这二者兼有，却又非有。重要的是，真正的安全感只可能来自于一个地方，那就是你的内心。有安全感的人不一定占据着社会上最稳固的资源，但一定占据着这样的天赋：不在乎有的，不惦记没的，不害怕失去的，不追求强扭的，觉得什么都是自己的，万一什么也没有了也无所谓。对得到适可而止，对失去心无畏惧。因为财富是无尽的，物质你也不可能独自包揽，若是得失让你痛苦，那活着是为什么？尽自己努力让自己好的同时更加自在，这才是应该做的。

    若是你有一个美好的家庭请珍惜，若是没有，也请不要遗憾，努力地学习，努力地生活，学着去接受和勇敢，回报你的，将是一份稳固的安全感。

Security

  There has always been a lot of people asking me: Why do you always run? And my answer every time is: I do not know, do not feel ran panic, an inexplicable panic. Later I learned that my habitual running, sleeping in the bedroom with quilts and anxiety in the first place was originally a sign of lack of security.

  How important is it to one person's safety? In the Maslow hierarchy of needs, the sense of security is ranked second, second only to physiological needs. And for myself, if life is like a ball, the sense of security determines the integrity of the ball, and if it has any flaws, it does not roll easily. Unsecured people often have a sense of distrust of themselves and others, and they are often in anxiety. They are always in the mood of fear, afraid to lose, fear of failure, and they must be left alone The state of continuous work only peace of mind. In modern society, most people get rid of the embarrassing embarrassment in their material life. However, there are still many people with different degrees of lack of security. What are the reasons?

    In my opinion, this is the family, on the one hand, and on the other.

    For the family, the more I grow up, the more deeply felt. As I mentioned at the outset, I always like to go to bed with my head because the parents are always at home when I was a child. Because of the fear of the night, I always turn on the lights. I think there is something in the room Is a ghost or a bad guy, so he wrapped himself tightly wrapped in a quilt. Almost everyday, so when you grow up unconsciously hide yourself in the quilt. When I was young, I did not think anything was wrong. However, as I grew up, as I became more and more knowledgeable and in need of more and more, I found my parents were becoming more and more impatient with my affairs and I had seen them on my face more than once The way it hurt me deeply, so I do not want to trouble the parents, blindly want to rely on their own strength. However, in my tense studies, I added one after another a burden on myself, followed by a more cautious, more anxious and painful, and often weary, emotion. Therefore, a good family is an important factor for the child's sense of security. A complete and beautiful home is the basis for children to be based on the society. A good family education is an inherent manifestation of the child's self-confidence and sunshine. Home is a place formed by the concept of one person. When she fails, she encourages them in time and embraces them when she is sad, so that he can form a trust in the world in her consciousness so that she can have a stronger heart to deal with changes. Like an egg, once it is cracked, it can be hard to repair it and its ability to bear the burden also drops.

  In addition to the initial factor of family, one's own sense of security is also a major factor. Psychological research shows that a person has no absolute sense of security and we must admit that this world is simply not safe at all. Therefore, in addition to being protected by others, we must learn to give ourselves a sense of security. Is to make yourself stronger? Still more hard to pursue the wealth of material life? I think both have both, but not none. Importantly, the real sense of security can only come from one place, that is your heart. A person who has a sense of security does not necessarily occupy the most stable resources in the community, but must occupy such a talent: he does not care about it, does not hesitate about it, he is not afraid of losing, he does not pursue hard things and thinks that everything is his own In the event of nothing, it does not matter. Get enough on the go, fearless to lose heart. Because wealth is endless, you can not material alone, if the pros and cons make you painful, then why is it alive? This is what you should do if you try your best to make yourself better at the same time.

    If you have a beautiful family please cherish, if not, please do not regret, hard to learn, hard life, learn to accept and brave, return you, will be a solid sense of security.