How to set smart goals: What science says about getting what you want 如何设定明智的目标:科学所说的得到你想要的

                                                                 —— 选自Yourcoach网站(吉玛译)


During my two-week break,I’ve been working to migrate some of my old Money Bossarticles toGet Rich Slowly. I thought this long piece on how to set good goals might be useful to those of you about to set goals and resolutions for 2018, so I’m publishing it today. Enjoy!

在我为期两周的假期中,我一直在努力让我的old Money Boss的文章转移到《慢慢致富》上。我想这篇关于如何设定好目标的文章可能对你们那些准备制定2018年目标和计划的人有用,所以我今天要发布它。敬请欣赏!

We’ve reached one of my favorite parts of the year: the transition from the old to the new. I like that so many of us pause during the winter to reflect on how are lives are going — and the direction we’d like them to head.

我们已经来到一年中我最喜欢的季节之一:从旧的过渡到新的。我喜欢我们中的许多人在冬天停下来反思生活的发展方向——以及我们期望的发展方向。

As part of this, many folks set goals and resolutions for the coming year. Unfortunately, most of these goals and resolutions are destined to remain nothing more than dreams. Why? Because most people don’t know how to set good goals.

作为这一目标的一部分,许多人制定了来年的目标和计划。不幸的是,大多数的目标和决心注定只是梦想而已。为什么?因为大多数人不知道如何设定好的目标。

I want to change that.

我想改变这一点。

Let’s take some time today to explore what science says about how to set smart goals and resolutions. My hope is that by arming yourself with this knowledge, you’ll still be pursuing your aims in April — instead of having relegated them to the realm of dreams.现在让我们花些时间来探讨一下科学所说的如何制定明智的目标和决心。我希望是,用知识武装自己,你将在4月继续追求你的目标,而不是降至至诚感通。

How to Set Good Goals

如何设定好的目标

If you ask most people how to set good goals, they’ll tell you that goals should be SMART: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and timed. While this sounds great — and it’s a methodology I’ve pushed in the past myself — there’s no actual evidence that it works. (Maybe your research skills are better than mine; if you can find studies that show SMART goals are effective, please let me know.)

如果你问大多数人如何设定好的目标,他们会告诉你,目标应该是明智的:具体的、可衡量的、可实现的、中肯的和时控的。虽然听起来不错——而且这是过去我鞭策自己的方法论——但是没有实际的证据证明它是有效的。(也许你的研究能力比我强;如果你找到研究证明聪明目标是存在的,请告诉我)。

So what kind of goals are effective? InThe How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky shares her summary of the studies into productive (and happy) goalsetting. “There is persuasive evidence that following your dreams is a critical ingredient of happiness,” she writes. And it matters which goals you pursue while following those dreams:

那么什么样的目标是有效的呢?在《快乐之道》中,索尼娅·柳博米尔斯基分享了她对设定富有成效的(快乐的)目标的研究成果的总结。“有力的证据表明,追寻梦想是幸福的关键因素,”她写道。这也关系到你在追逐梦想时所追求的目标:

The pursuit of goals that are intrinsic, authentic, approach-oriented [which I’m describing as “positive” in this article], harmonious, activity-based, and flexible will deliver more happiness than the pursuit of goals that are extrinsic, inauthentic, avoidance-oriented [or negative], conflicting, circumstance-based, or rigid. This mouthful of words is based on decades of research.

对目标的追求是内在的,真实的,导向性的(这篇文章中我把它称之为“积极的”),和谐的,基于活动的,灵活的,会比追求外在的、不真实的、逃避性的(或消极的)、冲突的、基于环境的或死板的的目标带来更多的快乐。这句话是基于几十年的研究得出的。

Let’s look at each of these qualities a little more closely. According to science, Lyubomirsky says, the best goals will be:

让我们更仔细地看看这些品质。根据科学,柳波莫斯基指出,最好的目标是:

l. Intrinsic. Good goals come from inside you, not from an outside source. You’ll be much more motivated to get things done if you’re acting because you want to and not because you have to. Your goals should be things you’d do even if you weren’t required. (A bad goal is one you pursue simply to please others. Think “want” over “ought”.)

内在的。好的目标来自于你的内心,而不是来自外部因素。如果你想做,你会更有动力去完成任务,因为是你想做而不是你必须这样做。你的目标应该是做即使你不是必需的做的事。(一个糟糕的目标就是你追求的仅仅是取悦别人。“想要”大于“应该”)。

2.Authentic. Lyubomirsky says that people are happier, healthier, and work harder when they choose goals aligned with their values. “The more a goal fits your personality, the more likely that its pursuit will be rewarding and pleasureful,” she writes. If you’re an introvert, it might not make sense to make a resolution that involves joining a group. But if you have a dominant personality, a goal of getting involved in local government could be perfect.

2.真实的。柳波默斯基认为,当人们选择与自己价值观相一致的目标时,他们会更快乐、更健康、更努力。她写道:“一个目标越是符合你的个性,目标追求就越有可能获得回报和愉悦。”如果你是一个内向的人,那么制定一个涉及到一个群体的计划可能是没有意义的。但如果你有一个外向的人格,那么参与地方政府的目标就可能是完美的。

3.Positive. A good goal helps you pursue a desirable outcome instead of avoiding an undesirable one. What do I mean? Well, a resolution can usually be framed as an approach goal (e.g., to be fit) or an avoidance goal (e.g., not to be fat). Studies show that people who pursue avoidance goals are less happy and achieve worse results than those who pursue approach goals. So, find a way to state your aim in a positive way — as a target you’re moving toward rather than something you’re trying to escape.

3.积极的。一个好的目标可以帮助你追求一个理想的结果,而不是避免一个不好的结果。我的意思是什么? 嗯,一个计划通常被框定为一种接近目标(例如,健康)或回避目标(例如,不要太胖)。研究表明,追求回避目标的人比追求接近目标的人更不快乐,结果也更糟。所以,找到一种方法,以积极的方式表达你的目标——作为前进的目标,而不是试图逃离的目标。

4.Harmonious. All of your goals should be aligned, complementing each other to create unified action. In this way, they can work together to make each one easier to achieve. Conflicting goals cause frustration and stress. (During my RV trip across the U.S., I had two goals that didn’t work well together: I wanted to stay fit and I wanted to drink beer in every city I visited. You can guess how that turned out…)

4.和谐。你所有目标都应该对齐,相互补充,以形成统一。通过这种方式,他们可以一起工作,使每个人更容易实现。冲突的目标会导致挫折和压力。(在我穿越美国的旅行中,我有两个目标不能很好地结合在一起:我想保持健康,且我想喝遍去过的城市的所有啤酒。你能猜出结果…)

5.Flexible. Your goals will evolve over time. As your priorities change, your goals should too. Don’t abandon difficult goals, but be willing to alter direction as your circumstances and priorities change.

5.灵活。你的目标会随着时间而改变。随着轻重缓急的改变,你的目标也应该改变。不要放弃困难的目标,但是当你的环境和轻重缓急发生变化时,你要愿意改变方向。

6.Activity-based. Goals that involve doing rather than getting tend to make people happier and more motivated. For one thing, you’re likely to adapt quickly to whatever it is you achieve — whether it’s moving to Miami or buying a new computer — so that the anticipated pleasure fades rapidly. Plus, you have more control over whether you do something than if you obtain something. For example, it’s better to create a goal in which you aim to take 100 photographs per day (an action you can control) rather than one in which you aim to sell a photo to a national magazine (an outcome that may be beyond your reach).

6.基于活动的。目标包括做而不是倾向于使人们更快乐和更有动力。首先,你可能会很快适应你所取得的成就——无论是搬到迈阿密,还是买一台新电脑——以至于预期的快乐很快就会消失。另外,相对于掌控你是否能拥有,你更能掌控你是否要做。例如,你的目标最好是每天要拍100张照片(你可以控制行动),而不是把照片卖给国家杂志(这个结果可能超出你的能力范围)。

That last bullet point is important and deserves additional clarification.

最后一个要点很重要,值得进一步澄清。

Remember how I’ve written in the past about developing an internal locus of control? (If not, no worries. I’ll be re-publishing that article here at Get Rich Slowly in just a few days!)

还记得我之前写的关于发展内部控制中心的文章吗? (如果没有,不用担心。这几天我将在Get Rich Slowly重新发布这篇文章!

The first tenet of the Get Rich Slowly philosophy is: You are the boss of you. This means that you should spend time and money on the things that you can actually influence while ignoring those that you can’t. When pursuing goals, I can’t determine the results; I can only determine my effort. Thus, it makes sense to set goals based on my actions (write two hours per day, go to the gym five times a week, max out my Roth IRA) instead of desired outcomes (get 100,000 email subscribers, bench-press my bodyweight, earn a 10% return on my investments).

《慢慢致富》的首要原则是:你是你的老板。这意味着你应该把时间和金钱花在那些你能真正影响的事情上,而忽略那些你不能影响的事情。在追求目标的时候,我无法确定结果;我只能决定我的努力。因此,根据我的行为来设定目标是有意义的(每天写作两小时,每周去五次健身房,最大限度地增加我的退休金),而不是渴望结果(10万电子邮件订阅者,仰卧举起和我一样重的重量,获得10%的投资回报)。

I think of it like this: It’s better to prioritize habits over targets. You have more control over your input than you do over the outcomes.

我是这样想的:最好将习惯优先于目标。你对付出的控制比你对结果的控制要多的多。

Why go to all this trouble when setting goals? Because if you’re careful to create good goals, you’ll get better results — with your life and your finances. And the better your results, the more likely you’ll be to continue working toward your goals…and your larger purpose.

为什么在设定目标的时候会遇到这些麻烦呢? 因为如果你仔细地去创造好的目标,你会得到更好的结果——包括你的生活和你的财富。想要得到更好的结果,你就越需要不断的朝着你的目标努力…朝着更大的目标努力。

Your Most Important Goals

你最重要的目标

Here’s a quick exercise drawn from The How of Happiness.

借鉴《快乐之道》里的一个简单的练习。

Think about your current goals, the ones that are most important to your life today. “Goals” include intentions, wishes, dreams, and desires. On a piece of paper, list at least eight of your most meaningful goals. (You can list more than eight, but please list at least eight of your most important goals.)

思考你当前的目标,那些对你现在生活最重要的目标。“目标”包括意图、愿望、梦想和欲望。在一张纸上,列出至少8个最有意义的目标。(你可以列出超过8个,但请列出至少8个你最重要的目标。)

Now you’re going to evaluate each of your goals individually. Go through them one by one and ask yourself:

现在你要分别评估每一个目标。逐一检查,然后问自己:

1.Is the goal intrinsic or extrinsic? Are you doing it because you want to, or because somebody else wants you to? 

1.目标是内在的还是外在的? 你这样做是因为你想这么做,还是因为别人想让你这么做?

2.you, or does it feel like it’s not quite aligned with who you are? 

2.目标是真实的还是不真实的? 你觉得它适合你吗?还是觉得它与你的身份不一致?

3.Is the goal positive or negative? Are you working toward a desired outcome, or are you trying to avoid something you don’t want?

3.目标是积极的还是消极的?你是在朝着你想要的结果努力,还是在逃避你不想要的东西?

4.Is the goal harmonious or conflicting? Does the objective work well with the other goals you’ve listed (and your overall purpose), or does it make your other aims more difficult to achieve?

4.目标是和谐的还是冲突的? 你的目标是否与你列出的其他目标(以及你的总体目标)很好的协作,还是让你的其他目标更难实现?

5.Is the goal flexible or rigid? If your life circumstances were to change, would the goal be easy to set aside, or does it create some sort of barrier to making future changes?

5.目标灵活的还是死板的? 如果你的生活环境改变了,你的目标会很容易被撤销,还是会为将来的改变创造某种障碍呢?

6.Is the goal activity-based or circumstance-based? Is it based around doing something, or is it based around getting/achieving something?

6.目标是基于活动的还是基于环境的?它是基于做某件事,还是基于获得/实现某件事?

In answering these questions, good goals will have more of the qualities listed first than the ones listed second. Great goals will have all six of the attributes that science says lead to happiness; they’ll be intrinsic, authentic, positive, harmonious, flexible, and activity-oriented.

在回答这些问题时,好的目标里,列在第一位的目标比列在第二位的要有更多的优点。极好的目标具有科学所说的能带来幸福的全部六种属性,它们是内在的、真实的、积极的、和谐的、灵活的和基于活动的。

If your goals don’t align well with Lyubomirsky’s guidelines, ask yourself why this might be the case. Are there any discernible patterns? Are many of your goals extrinsic, based on what others want you to do? Are they avoidance goals, designed to help you keep away from some negative outcome? If there are patterns, what can you do to change them?

如果你的目标与柳波莫斯基的指导方针不一致,问问自己为什么会这样。有什么明显的模式吗?你的许多目标都是外在的,是基于别人想要你做的吗? 是为了帮助你避免一些消极的结果吗? 如果有模式,你能做什么来改变它们?

Next, let’s look at the relative importance of goals. Not all goals are created equal!

接下来,让我们看看目标的相对重要性。不是所有的目标都是平等的!

A Hierarchy of Goals

目标的层次结构

In the past, I divided my goals based on how long it took to complete them: short-term goals, intermediate goals, and long-term goals. More and more, however, I’ve begun to think of my goals as existing in a hierarchy. Some goals are more important than others.

过去,我根据完成目标的时间来划分目标:短期目标、中期目标和长期目标。然而,越来越多的人开始认为我的目标存在于一个层次结构中。有些目标比其他的更重要。

High-level goals aren’t always long-term goals. Next week, for example, I’ll start a two-week “cleanse” diet. This objective is high on my personal goal hierarchy, but it’s also an immediate aim. And there are times when I have a long-term goal that’s low on the goal hierarchy. I want to visit Antarctica, for instance, but I’m in no rush to do so. That’s not a trip for which I need to be particularly fit, so it can wait until I’m older.高层次目标并不总是长期目标。例如,下周我将开始为期两周的“净化”饮食。这个目标在我个人的目标层次上是很高的,但也是一个直接的目标。有时候一个长期目标,在目标层次上很低。例如,我想去南极洲,但我并不急于这样做。那不是我特别需要的旅行,所以它可以等到我老了再去。

Perhaps the best explanation and exploration of goal hierarchies can be found in Angela Duckworth’s Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Here’s a diagram from the book:

也许对目标层次结构的最好解释和探索可以在安吉拉·达克沃斯的《勇气:激情和毅力的力量》中找到答案。这是书中的图表:

And here’s how Duckworth describes it:

达克沃斯是这样描述的:

At the bottom of this hierarchy are our most concrete and specific goals — the tasks we have on our short-term to-do list: I want to get out the door today by eight a.m. I want to call my business partner back. I want to finish writing the email I started yesterday. These low-level goals exist merely as means to ends. We want to accomplish them only because they get us something else we want.在这个层次结构的底部是我们最具体和详细的目标——是短期任务清单上的任务:我想在今天早上八点出门。我想给我的生意伙伴回个电话。我想写完昨天着手的邮件。这些低层次的目标仅仅是达到目的的一种手段。我们想要实现它们,只是因为它们给我们带来了我们想要的东西。

In contrast, the higher the goal in this hierarchy, the more abstract, general, and important it is. The higher the goal, the more it’s an end in itself, and the less it’s merely a means to an end.

相比之下,这个层次的目标越高,它就越抽象、不详细、重要。目标越高,本身的目的性就越强,它不仅仅只是达到目的的一种手段。

[…]

The top-level goal is not a means to any other end. It is, instead, an end in itself. Some psychologists call this an “ultimate concern”. Myself, I think of this top-level goal as a compass that gives direction and meaning to all the goals below it.

高层次目标不是实现任何其他目标的手段。相反,它本身就是目标。一些心理学家称之为“终极关怀”。我个人认为高层次的目标就像是一个指南针,为它下面的所有目标提供方向和意义。

Duckworth’s research suggests that success in life comes from grit — passion and perseverance — which is all about “holding the same top-level goal for a very long time”.

达克沃斯的研究表明,人生的成功来自于坚毅——激情和毅力——与“在长时间内保持相同的高层次目标”有关。

It’s easier to pursue your passion when you’ve taken time to thoughtfully develop a group of goals to support it. “The more unified, aligned, and coordinated our goal hierarchies are, the better,” Duckworth writes. (This goes along with Lyubomirsky’s point that your goals should be harmonious with each other.)

当你花时间深思熟虑地制定一组目标来支持它时,你更容易追求你的激情。达克沃斯写道:“我们的目标层级越统一、一致、协调,目标就越好。”(这与柳博米尔斯基的观点一致,即你的目标应该是和谐的。)

Duckworth, who likes to use athletes to illustrate her points, cites Hall of Fame pitcher Tom Seaver as an example of somebody who built his life around a single mission, a mission that dictated his lower-level goals. In a 1972 interview with Sports Illustrated, Seaver stated his purpose clearly:

达克沃斯,他喜欢用运动员来说明她的观点,引用名人堂的投手汤姆·塞弗作为一个例子,他的生活围绕着一个单一的任务,这个任务决取决于他的低水平目标。在1972年接受《体育画报》采访时,西弗明确地陈述了自己的目标:

I’ve made up my mind what I want to do. I’m happy when I pitch well so I only do those things that help me be happy. I wouldn’t be able to dedicate myself like this for money or glory, although they are certainly considerations. If I pitch well for 15 years I’ll be able to give my family security. But that isn’t what motivates me.

我确定我想做什么。投球的时候我很高兴,所以我只做那些能让我快乐的事情。我不能为了金钱或荣誉而奉献自己,尽管他们必需因素。如果我能完美的投球15年,我就能保证我的家庭安全。但这并不是激励我的动力。

What motivates some pitchers is to be known as the fastest who ever lived. Some want to have the greatest season ever. All I want is to do the best I possibly can day after day, year after year. Pitching is the whole thing for me. I want to prove I’m the best ever.

有些投手最大的动力就是成为世界上跑的最快的人。有些想要成就最伟大的赛季。我所要做的就是尽我所能,日复一日,年复一年。投球对我来说是全部。我想证明我是最棒的。

And this purpose determined his day-to-day actions, his lower-level goals:

目的决定了他的日常行为,低层次目标:

[Pitching] determines what I eat, when I go to bed, what I do when I’m awake. It determines how I spend my life when I’m not pitching.

[投球]决定我吃什么,何时睡觉,醒来我要做什么。当我不投球了,它决定了我如何度过我的一生。

1.because I might get a burn that would keep me from throwing for a few days, then I never go shirtless in the sun.

1.如果这意味着我不得不来到佛罗里达,不能晒黑,因为我可能会晒伤,好几天不能投球,那么我就不会在阳光下赤膊上阵。

2.If it means when I get up in the morning I have to read the box scores to see who got two hits off Bill Singer last night instead of reading a novel, then I do it.

2.如果这意味着早上起床时,我必须看比赛记录表,看看谁昨晚谁有两支安打,而不是看小说,那么我也照做不误。

3.If it means I have to remind myself to pet dogs with my left hand or throw logs on the fire with my left hand, then I do that, too.

3.如果这意味着我不得不提醒自己,用左手抱着我的宠物狗或者用我的左手将木头扔进火中,那么慢 我也照做不误,。

4.If it means in the winter I eat cottage cheese instead of chocolate chip cookies in order to keep my weight down, then I eat cottage cheese.

5.如果这意味着为了保持我的体重下降,冬天我只能吃奶酪,而不是巧克力饼干,那么我就会吃奶酪。

I might want those cookies but I won’t ever eat them. That might bother some people but it doesn’t bother me. I enjoy the cottage cheese. I enjoy it more than I would those cookies because I know it will help me do what makes me happy.

我可能想要那些饼干,但我永远不会吃它们。这可能会困扰一些人,但这并不困扰我。我喜欢松软的干酪。比其那些饼干我更喜欢它,因为我知道它会帮助我做让我开心的事。

Obviously, not even the most successful people dedicate every waking moment to their purpose and passion. Everyone needs downtime. But ultimately your success will be determined by how well you build a hierarchy of goals that supports your purpose, then spend your time working to accomplish these objectives.

显然,即使再成功的人也不会把每一个清醒的时刻都奉献给自己的目标和激情。每个人都需要停工期。但是最终你的成功将取决于你如何建立一个能支持你目标的层次结构,然后花时间去完成这些目标。

Your Goal Hierarchy

你的目标层次结构

After reading Grit and seeing Duckworth’s diagram, I spent some introspective time considering my own goals. Are they aligned with my purpose? Are they harmonious with each other? Are they intrinsic? In the end, I spent an hour or two on an exercise that I think could be useful to Get Rich Slowly readers.

读了《坚毅》和看到达克沃斯的图表后,我花了一些内省的时间来思考我自己的目标。它们与我的目的一致吗?他们彼此和谐吗? 他们是内在吗? 最后,我花了一两个小时的时间进行练习,我认为这样可以帮助《慢慢阅读》读者。

Before you begin, you’ll need to find space and time for introspective work where you won’t be interrupted by people or pets or social media. You’ll also need a pen and either a stack of index cards (or sticky notes) or a bunch of paper. You can’t really do this project on a computer. (Maybe in a spreadsheet, but I think it’s best on paper.)在你开始之前,你需要找到不被人、宠物或社交媒体打扰时间和空间进行内省工作。你还需要一支笔和一堆索引卡(或便利贴)或一堆纸。你不能在电脑上做这个任务。(也许可以再电子表格中,但我认为最好是在纸上。)

Ready? Here’s how it works.

准备好了吗?以下是它的做法。

1.On your first index card, write down your mission statement, your purpose. (If you need help with this, here’s a one-page PDF with an exercise meant to help you create your personal mission statement.)

1.在你的第一张索引卡上,写下你的任务宣言,你的目标。(如果你需要帮助的话,这有页PDF格式的练习,可以帮助你创建个人任务宣言。)

2. Next, write each of your top-level goals on its own index card (or sticky note or piece of paper). Clearly, if you haven’t determine what your top-level goals are, you’ll have to do so now. That’s why you need space and time to think deeply! (As you come up with these goals, try to make sure they fit the profile for good goals I shared earlier in this article.) My top-level goals came naturally from my mission statement. One of them, for example, is “be the best person I can be, both mentally and physically”. Note that this is pretty vague. That’s fine. Top-level goals tend to be vague. The lower you go, the more concrete your aims become.

2.接下来,在索引卡上写下你的每一个高层次目标(或者便签或者一张纸)。显然,如果您还没有确定您的高层次目标是什么,那么您现在就必须这样做。这就是为什么你需要时间和空间去深入思考!(当你提出这些目标时,试着确保它们符合我前面文章所分享的目标。)我的高层次目标是来自我的任务宣言。例如,其中一个就是“做最好的自己,无论是精神上还是身体上”。注意这是很模糊的。但很好。高层次目标往往是模糊的,目标层次越低,你的目标就越具体。

3.Now, for each of your top-level goals, make a list of supporting goals. Again, this might take some time. That’s okay. When I did this, I came up with two goals to support my aim to “be the best person I can be, both mentally and physically”: (1) achieve and maintain physical fitness, and (2) achieve and maintain mental fitness.

3.现在,为你的每一个高层次目标,列一个支持目标清单。这可能需要一些时间。没关系。我做的时候,我提出了两个目标来支持:“成为最好自己,无论是精神上还是身体上”的目的:(1)达到并保持身体健康,(2)达到并保持精神健康。

4.I think you can see where this is going. Your next step is to look at these new goals, and for each brainstorm a list of further supporting goals. When I took my goal to “achieve and maintain physical fitness”, for instance, I ended up with five sub-goals: eat well, drink only in moderation, exercise daily, practice good grooming, and dress well.

4.我想你能看出点矛头了。下一步是研究这些新的目标,并为每个头脑风暴提供进一步的支持目标清单。例如,当我的目标是“达到并保持身体健康”的时候,我的目标包含五个子目标:吃好,只喝适量的饮料,每天锻炼,锻炼良好的仪容,穿着得体。

5.Continue this process for each branch of the hierarchy until you reach the bottom. (The bottom might come at different levels in different places. Don’t sweat it.) For my goal of “eat well”, I came up with four subgoals: keep portion sizes moderate, limit sugar intake, eat veggies first, and eat only when hungry. But for “dress well”, I only came up with two subgoals: maintain an attractive wardrobe, and wear nice clothes when possible.

5.延续这个过程的每个分支的层次结构直到最底部。(底部可能会在不同的地方出现不同的水平。别担心。) 对于“吃得好”,我提出了四个小目标:保持适中分量,限制糖的摄入量,先吃蔬菜,饿的时候才吃。但是对于“穿得好”,我只提出了两个小目标:具有吸引力的衣柜,必要时穿好衣服。

By the end of this exercise, my kitchen table was covered with sticky notes — over 100 of them. Because Kim would kill me if I left the table like that (and the cats would probably destroy the sticky notes), I moved them to a spare whiteboard where I highlighted the top-level goal that’s most important to me right now (“be the best person I can be, both mentally and physically”). Here’s a photo of what it looks like hanging in my office:

在练习结束的时候,我厨房桌子上满是便签——超过100张。因为如果我把便签就放在那,金可能会杀了(猫可能会破坏便签),我将便签移到备用白板,重点记号现在对我来说最重要高层次目标,(“成为最好的自己,无论在心理上和身体上”)。这是一张挂在我办公室里的照片:

Good Goals in Action

良好的目标行动

When you set good goals, you can accomplish more than you might at first believe possible. After graduating from college, my friend Paula Pant decided she wanted to travel the world.

当你设定好的目标时,你完成的比你最初相信的可能要多的多。大学毕业后,我的朋友宝拉潘特决定要环游世界。

“I had a huge map of the world hanging up in my apartment,” Paula says. “I would just stare at it for hours thinking of all the places I wanted to go.” Because she wanted to travel, she made financial choices that others wouldn’t.

“我有一张巨大的世界地图挂在我的公寓里,”宝拉说。“我会盯着它看几个小时,想着我想去的所有地方。”因为她想去旅行,所以她做出与别人不同的经济选择。

“I hustled in the evenings and weekends writing freelance stories and increasing my income. I drove a $400 car, and I didn’t even drive that much. I walked or biked pretty much anywhere I wanted to go,” says Paula. “And what’s funny is that none of it actually felt like a sacrifice because I was so aware of the fact that these things were unimportant to me. It never felt like I was giving anything up.”

“我晚上和周末都在忙着写自由故事,增加收入。我开了一辆400美元的车,我甚至不怎么开车。我散步或骑自行车去任何我想去的地方”。宝拉说,“有趣的是,这一切都不是牺牲,因为我意识到这些事情对我来说并不重要。我从不认为我放弃过任何东西。”

Paula’s mission kept her motivated, and it helped her set appropriate goals. In 2008, she quit her job to spend two-and-a-half years traveling through Europe, the Middle East, and Southeast Asia. (She now writes about her financial philosophy at Afford Anything.)

保拉的任务使她充满动力,并帮助她设定了适当的目标。2008年,她辞掉工作,花两年的时间旅行了欧洲、中东和东南亚。(现在她在Afford Anything网站上写她的金融哲学。)

Successful people have a purpose, and they set goals to help them progress toward their larger goal and mission. Paula’s purpose was to explore the world, and that informed very decision she made. It helped her figure out which goals to pursue and which to ignore.

成功人士有一个目标,他们设定目标帮助他们朝着更大的目标和任务前进。宝拉的目的是探索世界,她做出了非常明智的决定。它帮助她找到了追求的目标和忽略的目标。

“Society says it’s normal to have a nice apartment,” says Pant. “If that’s what you dream about, if that’s what keeps you awake at night, then go for it — if that’s your dream. But if that’s not really your passion, then slash it. Live in a dump so you can do what it is you love.”

“人们认为拥有一间漂亮的公寓是正常的,”潘特说。“如果这就是你梦到的,如果这就是让你夜不能寐的,那就去做吧——如果那是你的梦想的话。但如果那不是你真正富有激情想要拥有的,那就丢掉吧。即使生活在垃圾场,你也可以做你喜欢的事情。”

Link:How to set smart goals: What science says about getting what you want

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