when facing a new situation,some people tend to rehearse their defeat by spending too much time anticipating the worst.I remembered talking with the young lawyer,who was about to begin her first jury trial,she was very nervous.I asked"what impression she wanted to make in jewery?" She replied:" I don't want to look too inexperienced,I don't want them to suspect,this is my first trial,this lawyer had fallen victims into don't syndrome ,a form of negative goal setting,the don't can be self-fulfilling because your mind response to picture.
Research conducted a Standford University shows a mental image fires the nervous system the same way as actually doing something,that means when a golfer tells himself, don't hit the ball into the water,his mind sees the ball flying images into the water,so guess where the ball route would go,
Consequently,before going to any stressful situation,focus only what you want to have happened, I asked the laywer again,how she wanted to appear at her first trial,and this time she said, I want to professional and self for sured,I told her to create a picture of what self for sured would look like ,to her,it meant moving confidently around the courtroom,using convincing body language and projecting her voice,so it could be heard form the judges bench to the back door,she also imagine a skillful closing argument and a winning trial, a few weeks after this positive rehersal ,the young lawyer did win.
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