A well-rounded lover should at least know the very basics of massage. Women don't know how much stress they're carrying until they have one and then they're able to feel it and let go of it. Not only that, but massage puts women into a natural trance-like state which is perfect for seduction or to be followed up by a hypnotic induction ; deep relaxation, better circulation, relaxed state of alertness, a calmer mind, a feeling of wellbeing, and reduced levels of anxiety. However, learning how to give a tantric massage like a pro can take a lot of time and money. But you can give any woman a good experience is you follow some of the basic rules.
• Never put direct pressure on her bones, especially her spine. Work with the surrounding muscle and tissue only.
• Keep your fingers closed together (not spread apart) and massage with the entire flat of your hands. Use your finger pads only for working her particularly tight spots.
• Maintain a consistent rhythm, which has a sensually hypnotic effect.
• Always maintain contact with her skin. Keep one hand on her even when changing positions or adding more massage oil.
• Make sure the room is warm before you start. As she begins to relax, her metabolism will start to slow down and she’ll feel chilly otherwise. Also, as a general rule, women feel comfortable at a slightly warmer temperature than men.
• Turn down the lights or use candle illumination to make the experience more relaxing and sensual. Put on some soothing but not distracting music.
• Don’t feel as if you have to give your woman a twenty-minute massage every time. Five minutes is all it really takes, and if you keep it short you’re more likely to give them.
• Using lotion will reduce uncomfortable skin friction and feel a lot nicer to her. For a long time I gave women massages with no lotion - and they would always find an excuse to get up and go after about five minutes! Now I ALWAYS use lotion and they never want me to stop.
• If you use your hands and arms to apply all of the pressure you’ll get tired quickly. Lean into the massage with your body weight so that you can last longer.
• Here’s a little trick I learned: if you’re not really sure if she likes what you’re doing, IMAGINE what it would feel like if you were on the receiving end. Did that feel good or awkward being stroked like that? Yeah, it might sound crazy but it works!
