日期：2021.02.25

【人物学习】

宁毅：《赘婿》主人公

刚开始看的时候，并不知道出演宁毅的人是谁，讲到什么故事。就觉得挺好玩的，一部穿越剧。讲的是一个金融CEO被人陷害后穿越到古代当一名苏家世代纺织业大佬的赘婿。而出演人则是郭麒麟，也就是郭德纲的儿子。不仅能说相声，演戏也不错，也是为数不多没有绯闻的。

那为啥大家还爱看呢？

我想从宁毅身上能看到一些原因。

1. 不屈不挠，敢于向权威挑战。非常满足现代人备受压迫下想要出口气的冲动，看着爽。比如刚被送入宁德学院的时候，也就是赘婿学习学院，老师还罚他们，歧视他们。而他则指出了问题，为什么要低人一等，被人低看。至少都是人，学生尊重老师，老师也要尊重学生，为什么要变相体罚。这其实也是说出来很多学生的心声，自然看着爽快。

2. 聪明智慧有一手。能够面对恶势力，循序渐进，思考对策方法，娓娓道来，一点一点的惩恶扬善。很符合大众的价值观。让坏人倒霉，让好人好起来，而不是相反的。尤其是面对乌家的势力，并没有任何恐惧，却用极为巧妙的方法让其破产，反倒成就了苏家大业。当然必先有的一损，但却后胜。看得也是大快人心。通过皮带发家致业，最终成为了那个地区的首富。

3. 思维清晰，不被条条框框所束缚。尤其深得女子的心。比如刚结婚的时候，驳斥了二叔觉得女子不易继承家业的想法，说道自古以来包括祖师爷都是女性，而让其哑口无言，备受丈母娘和娘子以及爷爷的器重。后来，哪怕成为首富，也是写的自己妻子 的名字，并没有显摆或推翻什么，而是彼此信任，两个人共同奋斗一起努力，也越来越顺利。 也因为此，备受秦将军的信赖而给予了其小匕首。不蛮干，思考方式方法来做。虽然经常处于寡不敌众的情形下，却总能以巧字取胜。

4. 正义感满满，有责任心。遇到危险，不会自己就跑了。而是面对危险，主动承担，临危受命。包括在霖安救大家的方法，也包括被转入匪当中时刻思考如何脱离的方式。

或许有时候看着前不搭调后不着店的，但因为有着现代人想要表达的部分，就有种寄托似的在一部剧里面实现了，于是就喜欢看了。

当然说回原题：赘婿。所有人都觉得这是一个非常卑微的驸马爷，从一开始就会被人低看。如果破罐子破摔了，那就印证了别人的认为。只有抛开前提假设，去体现自己能力，来赢得别人的尊重。尊重也是靠自己一步一步赢来的，绝非勾心斗角斗来的。

【作品学习与读书】

萨古鲁：如何在家自然地排毒和净化身体？

Sadhguru gives us tips to cleanse each of the five elements within us, which when practiced regularly, can lead to a sense of rejuvenation and wellbeing within.

萨古鲁给出了净化内在五大元素的贴士，如果每天实践这些贴士，就可以从内在获得活力与幸福。

Sadhguru: Before you attempt anything that is considered as a mystical process, it is very important to stabilize the five fundamental elements within you. These are known as pancha bhutas or maha tatwas in the yogic science. The body, the very earth, the universe, and the cosmos, all are just a play of five elements. The body’s composition is such that most of it is water. Then there is earth, air, fire, and the rest is akash or etheric space.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：在你尝试任何所谓的神秘修行之前，很重要的一点就是要稳定你内在的五大基本元素。这些元素在瑜伽科学里被称为Pancha Bhutas或Maha Tatwas。身体、大地、万物和宇宙都不过是这五大元素的游戏。身体的大部分由水构成。此外还有土、风和火，最后是空（Akash）或以太空间。

How these five elements behave within you determines just about everything. Bhuta means element, bhuta shuddhi means to become free from the taint of elements or to cleanse the elements. It means to become free from the physical nature. Most human beings are completely in the grip of their physiological and psychological processes. Our physiology is something that we have accumulated. Likewise, the whole content of our psychological process has been accumulated in the form of impressions.

这五大元素如何在你内在运作决定了一切。Bhuta是指元素，Bhuta Shuddhi是指清除这些元素的污垢或净化这些元素，使其脱离物理属性。大多数人完全受到他们的生理和心理过程的控制。我们的生理机能是我们所累积的。同样地，我们的心理过程的全部内容也是以印记的形式堆积而来。

Between these two processes, who you are existentially, the nature of your being, is completely missed. If you want to access dimensions that are not yet in your experience, dimensions that are considered mystical, the first thing that you need to do is to start cleansing the five elements within you. When the elements are pure, you distinctly know the difference between what is physical, what is psychological, and what is existential.

在生理和心理的过程中，你的存在本质被完全错失了。如果你想触及你还未曾体验过的神秘维度，你需要做的第一件事就是开始净化你内在的五大元素。当这些元素变得纯净时，你会清楚地了解身体、心理与存在之间的区别。

Tips to Cleanse the Five Elements

净化五大元素的贴士

Water 水

Among the five elements, water has the greatest significance because a major percentage of the body is water. You need to take sufficient care of the water that you consume – not just in terms of its physical purity, it being bacteria-free and so on, but in terms of how you keep the water and how you approach it. There is substantial scientific evidence today that a thought, an emotion, a touch can change the molecular structure of water and greatly alter the way water behaves within your system.

在这五大元素中，水最为重要，因为身体的主要部分是水。你需要格外注意你所喝的水——不但要注意水的物理纯度、无菌性等，还要注意如何装水和取水。如今有大量的科学依据证实，念头、情绪和触碰都会改变水的分子结构，从而极大地改变水在你的系统内运作的方式。

Water has a great sense of memory. Everything that happens around a body of water is in some way stored in the water molecules. You could call it a fluid computer. You are not dealing with a commodity – you are dealing with life-making material. Water is life. It is important how you treat it before it enters your system.

水拥有很强的记忆感。任何发生在水周围的事都会以某种方式被储存在水分子里。你可以将其称为流动的计算机。你不是在对待一件商品——你是在对待制造生命的材料。水即是生命。在水进入你的系统之前你如何对待它是十分重要的。

You can keep the water in a metal container, preferably made of copper or an alloy of copper, wash the container every day with an organic substance, and keep the water in a place where it is not touched by other smells and substances – there is sufficient space around it. If you do this, and you approach it by holding the vessel in your hands with a sense of gratitude and reverence because it is life-making material, and then consume it, you will see it will do wonders within your system. Healthfulness and equanimity will be a natural consequence.

你可以将水装在最好是由铜或铜合金制成的金属容器里，每天用有机物质清洗容器，并将水放在不会被其它气味和物质沾染的地方——让水周围有足够大的空间。此外，你在取水时应当带着感恩和崇敬的心情将容器用双手捧着，因为水是制造生命的材料，然后再去喝水。如果你这么做了，你将看到水会在你的系统里产生很奇妙的作用。健康和宁静将会是自然而然的结果。

Earth 土

The earth that you walk upon has a sense of intelligence and memory. Even if you live in a concrete jungle, it is important to keep in touch with the earth upon which you live. Create ways for yourself to somehow remain in touch with it. If your bare hands and bare feet – particularly the palms and soles – come in touch with the earth on a daily basis, it will harmonize the physiological process in your system.

你脚下的大地有着智慧和记忆。就算你住在水泥钢筋的丛林里，与你脚下的大地保持接触也很重要。想想一些与大地保持接触的方式。如果你光着手脚——尤其是手掌和脚掌——去与大地每天接触的话，你系统里的生理过程会变得和谐。

Try to spend at least a few minutes in the garden, barefooted, touching plants or trees, because the earth is the basis of life. All life – yours and that of every other creature – has come from this earth. Stay in touch with it and harmonize your system.

试着至少花几分钟到花园里赤脚走动，去接触植物和树木，因为大地是生命的基础。所有的生命——你的生命以及其他所有生物的生命——都是来自大地。你要与大地保持接触，从而使你的系统变得和谐。

Air 风

Though air represents only a small percentage of your body’s elemental composition, it is the most dynamic element in terms of the transaction that happens on a minute-to-minute basis. It is well-known that what kind of air you breathe is important, but how you breathe and how consciously you do so is equally important.

虽然在你身体的元素构成中风只占了很小的比例，但是从每分钟所发生的变化来看，风是最有活力的元素。众所周知，你呼吸什么样的空气是很重要的，但你如何呼吸以及你如何有觉知地呼吸也同样重要。

If you are in pure air, it is important to bring the breath to a dynamic state with some activity.

如果你周围的空气很纯净，通过某种活动增强呼吸很重要。

Especially for those of you who live in large cities, it may not always be in your hands what kind of air you breathe, so it is good that at least for a few minutes every day, you take a walk in the park, along the lake or the river, whatever is available to you. If you have children, it is important that at least once a month, you take them out far enough from the city, where nature is in a reasonably pure state, and they can climb a small hill, walk in a forest, or swim in a river, to be in touch with nature and do something where the breath is dynamic.

尤其是对你们当中那些住在大城市的人而言，你可能无法完全控制你呼吸什么样的空气，所以每天最好花上至少几分钟到你方便去的公园里、湖边或者水边散步。如果你有孩子，重要的一点是一个月至少有一次带着他们远离城市到那些自然环境还未受到破坏的地方，他们可以爬个矮山，到森林里散步或在河里游泳，与大自然亲密接触，进行一些增强呼吸的活动。

This is not just for aerobic exercise but because there is a constant exchange of air from within and without. The very intelligence in the body will make sure that when it senses the air is pure and alive, the way the body breathes will be different. With this exchange of air, cleansing will happen within the system. If you are in pure air, it is important to bring the breath to a dynamic state with some activity. You do not have to do too vigorous an activity – just enough to breathe slightly deeper than normal for a period of time. Especially for growing children, this is very important because it greatly enhances the body’s integrity and strength.

这些活动可不是仅仅为了有氧运动，而是因为身体内外一直有气体交换。身体本身具有智慧，在它感到空气纯净而有活力时，它的呼吸方式也会有所不同。伴随着气体交换，系统内部会发生净化。如果你周围的空气很纯净，通过某种活动增强呼吸很重要。你不需要做太剧烈的活动——在活动中只需要比正常略深地呼吸一段时间。尤其是对于还在发育阶段的孩子来说这点很重要，因为身体的整合性和力量会极大地提高。

If you are not able to take yourself out on a daily basis, you can do a simple yogic practice called nadi shuddhi at home to cleanse the breath.

如果你无法每天出去散步，你可以在家做一种叫气脉净化（Nadi Shuddhi）的简单瑜伽练习来净化呼吸。

Fire 火

Fire accounts for another part of your elemental makeup. What kind of fire burns within you? Is it the fire of greed, hatred, anger, resentment, lust, love, or compassion? If you cleanse the element of fire, once again your physical and mental wellbeing will be well-taken care of. You become an equanimous and exuberant being. A simple process you can do to cleanse the fire within you is get some sunlight every day. Though we have contaminated every other element, fortunately, sunlight cannot be contaminated – it has remained pure. Make best use of that.

在你的元素组成中火占了另一部分。在你内在有什么样的火在燃烧？是贪婪之火、仇恨之火、愤怒之火、怨念之火、欲望之火、爱之火还是慈悲之火？如果你净化了火元素，你的身心幸福会再次得到很好地保证。你变成一个宁静而丰盛的人。为了净化你内在的火，你能做的一个简单的练习就是每天晒点阳光。虽然我们已经污染了其它四种元素，但幸运的是阳光不会受到污染——它一直保持纯净。要充分利用阳光。

If you wish to, you can light a fire with an organic substance like straw or firewood, without any oil, and stand facing the fire with open hands and open eyes for three minutes. Then stand with your back to it, exposing your spine for three minutes. This process cleanses your aura and brings about a new sense of resurgence in the system. It rekindles and reconnects the fire within with the fire outside. This is the basis of all fire-based rituals of the East.

如果你愿意，你可以用稻草或木柴等有机物质而不是油来生火，双手张开，双眼睁开，面向火堆站立三分钟。然后背朝火堆站立三分钟，使你的脊柱对着火堆。这个练习会净化你的光环，给系统带来新的苏醒感。它会重新点燃内在之火并将其与外在之火重新联结。在东方，所有使用火的仪式都是基于此。

If having a fire is not practical for you, at least light a lamp with vegetable oil or ghee and be around this lamp. First, sit facing the lamp, then turn around and sit so that the fire element within you gets rekindled.

如果生个火堆对你而言不太现实，至少用植物油或酥油点燃一盏灯，处在这盏灯附近。首先脸朝向灯坐着，然后转身背对灯坐着，这样你内在的火元素会被重新点燃。

Akash 空

The fifth and most expansive dimension of the elemental composition is akash or etheric space. Akash has a certain intelligence. The nature, quality, and power of your life is essentially determined by how much access you have to the akashic intelligence. There is only a limited amount of water, air, earth, and fire, but the akashic dimension is limitless. If your access to it expands, both your perception and intelligence will grow.

元素组成中的第五个维度同时也是最广袤的维度是空或以太空间。空有某种智慧。你生命的本质、质量和力量从根本而言都取决于你能够从何种程度触及空的智慧。水、风、土和火的量是有限的，但是空这个维度是无限的。如果扩大了与空的接触，你的感知和智慧都会成长。

One simple process you can do to find more access to the akashic intelligence is, after sunrise, before the sun crosses a 30° angle, look up at the sky and bow down to akash for holding you and this planet in place. After the sun crosses 30°, sometime during the day, look up and bow down again. Within 40 minutes after sunset, look up at the sky and once again bow down to the etheric space around us that is holding everything in place.

为了能更多地触及空的智慧，你能做的一个简单练习就是在日出之后而太阳的角度还没超过30度之前，抬头望天，向空鞠躬，感谢它使你和这个星球都各就其位。在太阳的角度超过30度后，在白天的某个时刻，抬头望天，再次鞠躬。在日落后的40分钟内，抬头望天，再次向我们周围的以太空间鞠躬，感谢它使一切各就其位。

If you get akash to co-operate with your life energies, life will happen in magical ways. An intelligence that you have never thought possible will become yours.

如果你能让空与你的生命能量合作，生命将以神奇的方式绽放。一种你从未觉得可能的智慧将属于你。

【思考】

自然而然：

自然的状态是最舒服的，舒服意味着不受束缚，就像在家穿宽松睡衣一样，不紧绷，不难受，自然舒服。不戴任何装饰和修饰。

所以，回家第一件事情，就是换成睡衣穿着拖鞋，如果有戴项链、耳环之类的也都统统取下，卸妆洗脸，舒舒服服的让每一部分的肌肤呼吸新鲜空气。包括指甲。

昨天终于剪掉了大部分过年前做的美甲。之前不减是觉得浪费，好不容易做一次。但要开始工作了，太影响工作效率，于是剪掉了。也倍感舒服。因为贴上去的甲片，闷得指甲感觉透不过气来，很不舒服。新长出来的部分才觉得能透过气来，所以其实不喜欢做指甲，因为难受。

但，我们是从什么时候，出门的时候一定是盛装出行，从上到下都是精致的，不舒适的美丽的。凸显腰身的衣服，高跟鞋，一些首饰与装饰，仿佛我们是要秀产品的架子一样。漂亮却并不自然。

长期穿高跟鞋，脚会失去其原本的样子，变得挤在一起而没有空间舒展。长期戴耳环，耳洞越挂越大，有时候突然挂一个，也非常的痛。 穿着紧身衣，无时无刻在意着吸肚子憋气，而没法正常的呼吸。这些我们认为的美，到底是怎么定义的呢？好像是某种违背自然的约束吧。我们寻求自然，却忽略了陷入到自己设置的陷阱里。自以为精致的一切就是美，就是享受。却忽略了真正享受的或许是回家卸掉一切的真实吧。而真实却不愿意让其他人看到，因为觉得不美。

自然而然，就是本身的那个自己。没有任何添加也没有任何修饰。然而，现今却很少能自然而然，因为这个发展迅速以及追求完美无缺的社会，让一切都开始像人脸一样被磨皮，带着滤镜去看那个修饰后的自己，而非面对真实的自我。

【每日一句】

春雨潜入夜，润物细无声

【梦境】

做梦的时候被大风吹醒了，结果就忘记了。

【每日反思与改过】

没忍住，又把前天晚上在小姨家看的《赘婿》剩下没看的部分刷了一下，结果又睡的晚了一些，早上感觉好困不想起，尽管闹铃响了，还是又去睡了一会。没按时起床。嗯，所以需要慢慢戒除 看了一个电视剧的一部分就想要知道全部过程的这种强迫症。看多少算多少。

少刷微博，多远离手机。自从回家每天刷微博，就发现一刷至少半个多小时就没有了，眼睛还晕乎乎的困，压根起不到休息的过程，反倒更加困了。所以，减少在刷微博上的时间，多动脑思考且尽量远离手机的依赖。