Chapter 1
Words
1.resilience /rɪˈzɪliəns/
we plant the seeds of resilience in the ways we process negative events.
noun [uncountable] the ability to become strong, happy, or successful again after a difficult situation or event
造句：The strong resilience can help us overcome difficulties
2.stunt [stʌnt]
Three P's can stunt recovery
verb [transitive]to stop something or someone from growing to their full size or developing
properly:
例：Lack of sunlight will stunt the
plant’s growth.
造句：Traditional education system stunted our creativity.
3.subside/səbˈsaɪd/
Most of the people I knew who had lived through tragedy said that over time the sadness subsides.
if a feeling, pain, sound etc subsides, it gradually becomes less and then
stops
同义：die down:
例：The pains in his head had subsided, but he still felt dizzy and sick
造句：The rainstorm had subsided by noon.
4.consume
Even being aware of all my blessings, I was still consumed by the pain.
literary if a feeling or idea consumes you, it affects you very strongly, so that you cannot think about anything else
be consumed by/with 熟词生义 下文中出现的engulf 意思相近 sadness engulfed me
例： I was consumed with curiosity about my new neighbour.
造句：I was consumed by sadness after broke up with my ex-boyfriend.
5.gang up
All three P's ganged up on me in my twenties after my first marriage ended in divorce.
if people gang up on someone, they join together to attack, criticize, or oppose them, especially in a way that seems unfair:结伙，拉帮结派对付
例：Schoolchildren are quick to gang up on anyone who looks or behaves differently.
造句：She complained that all the colleagues ganged up on her.
Thoughts
想哭就哭，想笑就笑。当悲伤越是压抑的时候，越要懂得释放自己。难怪当年那首《男人哭吧哭吧不是罪》那么红，一定是唱出了很多男士的心声。
回想起来我最刻骨铭心的一段经历是一次背叛的失恋，当我确认我被一个自己付出所有心思的人欺骗的时候，整个世界都崩塌了。似乎每天除了沉浸在悲伤里，就只剩哭泣了。所以那时候的我最喜欢的就是睡觉，因为这样就可以逃避到另一个不被悲伤侵蚀的世界里。可是有时候我却还是会在梦里哭着醒来。
当时的我总是想我哪里做错了，你要这样对我？以为世界真的从此变得暗淡，以为再也不会有日出。这不是就那三个阻挡我们走出黑暗的3P么（Personalization, Pervasiveness,Permanence）
也不知道是什么时候开始眼泪渐渐被擦干，世界也开始变得明亮了起来。（现在回想应该不超过半个月吧）所以我有strong resilience。
还是那句话：时间是治愈伤口最好的良药。当然，你也要敞开胸怀让时间来治愈你。
