“泡司令最近接到读者来信:
我硕士毕业,目前月入过万;老婆专科毕业怀孕后就停止了工作,因为眼界不同所以平时没什么话讲。她属于那种很公主病的脾气,作又懒。也没什么朋友因为脾气太坏。”
“我大学时候认识她,她对我穷追不舍,可是当时我喜欢我们班上的一个姑娘,我没有勇气去表白,觉得自己农村来的高攀不上…最后经不住现在的老婆的追求就半推半就的答应在一起了。但是我真的不喜欢她。”
“结果在一起没半年,她就怀孕了,哭着要生。我说我都没毕业你要是想小孩出来都没住的地方那就生吧!我不管了。她才作罢”
“我现在工作稳定了,她马上又怀孕。我们便奉子成婚,现在她怀孕八个月。我们甚至连婚礼都没办。很多同学都不知道我结婚了,我的初恋也不知道。”
“之后一次同学聚会,我又遇见了我的初恋。聚会后我主动联系了她,知道她并没有嫁人,之后也没说别的了。结果我的老婆应该是看了我手机的短信,直接打电话过去骂我的初恋,用非常不堪的话去侮辱别人。我很生气,于是自己跑到外面去住没有回家。”
“结果她打电话给我的单位到处宣扬说我住小三家里去,我现在很颓废,觉得什么都没有意义了,泡司令,我该怎么办?”
作为中国情感管理权威机构,泡司令,给出以下点评:
首先,事情发展到如此地步。泡司令还是想说一句,自己作的死,还是要还的。
如果当初你不那么软弱,坚决一点,拒绝你老婆的追求。那么还会有今天这些事吗?
又或者你勇敢一点,追求了你的初恋,结局还会是这样吗?
可是,人生没有如果,事情已经发生,我们能做的就是好好的补救。
不管你和你妻子之间,在一起有多少错误,多么不合适,起码肚子里的孩子是无辜的。
孩子现在八个月,已经成型,是一条小生命。你们犯的错,不要让孩子来买单!
现在作为一个男人,你应该勇敢的站出来,先安抚你妻子的情绪,把孩子生下来。之后的事情之后再慢慢解决!
那么泡司令今天就先教你5招,来平复你老婆不安的情绪。
1向老婆虔诚认错
你的老婆现在处于非常不安的情绪里,孕期的女人本来就很敏感。所以在这种时候,男人要拿得起放得下!低头认个错没什么大不了的,自尊心应该分时候分地点体现,总之呢绝不是现在!为了肚子里的宝宝,给老婆认个错,让她说几句。
2安抚老婆情绪
认完错以后就要好好的用言语去安抚她,女人嘛就是靠哄的。哄了才能好,这时候和老婆进行深层次的交谈,或者柔声在她耳边说一些情话,都可以起到安抚的作用。
3主动干家务
最简单的小事,往往能打动人心。干家务活这种最小不过的事了,在老婆眼里却会觉得你是真的关心她,关心这个家,从而感受到温暖。
4看育儿方面书籍,购买婴儿用品
老婆现在怀孕八个月,你可以选择购入一些育儿的相关书籍,和母婴用品。然后和老婆一起查看相关的书籍,增加交流,也让老婆觉得你非常关心宝宝。
5多陪老婆散步
怀孕的女子在家是非常烦闷的,一边还要操心家务事,但是出行又怕不安全。这时候男人若是能抽出时间多带老婆出去逛逛,老婆会无比的开心。
不管夫妻之间有多少误会、隔阂,在你选择了对方结为夫妇的那一天,那么男人该担起的责任,你就必须去担起!即使像你说的,你和老婆并没有什么感情,奉子成婚;泡司令还是希望你能像个男人一样去解决这些问题!
清官难断家务事,但是泡司令只知道作为一个男人,什么是该做的,什么是不该做的!
希望你也能走出颓废的状态,拥抱更好的明天。
中国情感管理权威机构,泡司令,及时提供你心灵最痛处的解药!
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