<p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img src="http://blog.pic.xiaokui.io/00c1cd7b6e17d24160a23c6d7e5ffb69" style="white-space: pre-wrap;" /></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><qqmusic class="res_iframe qqmusic_iframe js_editor_qqmusic" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" musicid="104936872" mid="00495F3N3DQeRg" albumurl="/X/x/0032wsE33S0oXx.jpg" audiourl="http://ws.stream.qqmusic.qq.com/C10000495F3N3DQeRg.m4a?fromtag=46" music_name="我们不该这样的" commentid="1897609053" singer="张赫宣 - 北上广不相信眼泪 电视剧原声带" play_length="226000" src="/cgi-bin/readtemplate?t=tmpl/qqmusic_tmpl&singer=%E5%BC%A0%E8%B5%AB%E5%AE%A3%20-%20%E5%8C%97%E4%B8%8A%E5%B9%BF%E4%B8%8D%E7%9B%B8%E4%BF%A1%E7%9C%BC%E6%B3%AA%20%E7%94%B5%E8%A7%86%E5%89%A7%E5%8E%9F%E5%A3%B0%E5%B8%A6&music_name=%E6%88%91%E4%BB%AC%E4%B8%8D%E8%AF%A5%E8%BF%99%E6%A0%B7%E7%9A%84"></qqmusic>6月的最后一天，想必很多高考完的小鲜肉们已经完成了重要的抉择。小编上周末有幸做了一回咨询会的自愿者，感觉又回到了5年前，满脸稚嫩，问的最多的就是“应该先选学校呢？还是先选专业？”小编觉得，如果条件允许，更应该“</span><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">先选地方</span></strong>”！为什么？今天我们聊聊这个让我们深恶痛疾的北上广深！</p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">今日话题：</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">年轻人为什么要去大城市？</span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">如今的中国年轻人，比起温饱，实则身处一个“至少相当舒服的环境”，但，却没有了上世界的欢乐，只是不安地看着这个世界。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们不谈大小城市的优缺点，呆在这里多年的你们都有各自的理由，但是我只想说<span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">这些优缺点并非是绝对的，它往往会随着个体自身的特点而转化。</span><span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">世间所有的选择，到最后其实都是五个字：</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">你想要什么？</span></strong></p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">许多过来人见到这句话，会不屑地说一句“图样图森破”，告诉你这种想法实在太不成熟了，因为许多事情不是想想就能实现的。他们会摆出各种大道理，列出一连串的“反面教材”，告诉你若不循规蹈矩，人生将会如何悲惨……可是，</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果你连想想的勇气都没有，你又能实现什么？</strong></span></p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">在大城市和小城市的问题上，我的感情一直倾向于前者。当然，我并不是认为大城市一定比小城市好，更不是说年轻人必须要选择大城市，毕竟每个人都有自己的活法。但必须要承认的是，在这个选择中，天平从一开始就是倾斜的，前者的生存压力更大，也因此更需要勇气去承担。而<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">遵循内心的勇气</strong>，不但是我自己缺少的，也是我喜欢并尊重的。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">对于逃离大城市的年轻人，我同样尊重，因为他们尝试过。对于选择小城市安逸生活的年轻人，我也并不反感，因为那也未必不是遵循内心的选择。<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我唯一不能认同的，是某些人对打拼者的嘲笑，以及庸俗化的论调。</strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我见过不少世俗眼光中的失败者，虽然我并不认为那是失败，但他们无一例外遭遇了嘲笑。比如有人被迫从北上广回到家乡，就有一些这辈子未曾离开家乡的人嘲笑他在外面混不下去了，当然还少不了“早说过这条路走不通”之类的论调。还有一些人正在大城市里打拼，可逢年过节回到家乡，就会成为七大姑八大姨的谈资以及被训导对象，告诫你生活应该如何安守本分，结婚生子再去考个公务员才是世界上唯一的人生标准。</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我甚至认为，<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">正是这群人的存在，才逼得许多年轻人背井离乡，宁愿在大城市孤独打拼，也绝不回来</span>。<br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">没错，大城市里有许多平凡的打拼者，终其一生也无法跻身这个城市的上游，他们甚至买不起一套小房子，终日为温饱奔波。但谁有资格嘲笑他们呢？没有人可以。正如毛利在《普通女孩，就该滚出大城市？》中所写：</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">“为什么一定非要成功、出色，才能留在大城市？为什么女人不能像男人一样自由选择去留，她永远都该仰仗别人的意见生活吗？”</strong></p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">在中国人的人生选择中，女性比男性的空间更为狭窄，没在三十岁前把自己嫁出去仿佛是一条死罪，结婚后没生出孩子来同样是死罪。在毛利笔下，“这些美剧的忠诚东方女性观众们，并没受到多大的感召，<span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">她们在爸妈的房子里看着别人为所欲为，一点不为之所动</span>，因为世俗说，大城市的荣光并不属于她们。”</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">一个社会对女性的苛求与偏见，意味着整体价值观的缺陷。女性遭遇苛求，男性同样不会好过。认为女性留在小城市安于现状就是最好的七大姑八大姨，同样也是逼婚、逼考公务员的主力，她们的逼迫对象其实不分男女，这也许是小城市最让人窒息的一面。</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 40.332px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 495.508px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 2.6em; height: 2.6em; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; line-height: 2.6em; border-radius: 50%; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(123, 191, 234);"><section style="margin-top: 0.36em; margin-bottom: 0.35em; margin-left: 0.44em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.8em; height: 1.8em; line-height: 1.8em; border-radius: 50%; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 26.9922px; height: 26.9922px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">1</section></section></section></section><section style="margin: -0.5em auto 0.3em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0px; border-top-width: 1.1em; border-top-style: solid; border-top-color: rgb(123, 191, 234); word-wrap: break-word !important; border-left-width: 1em !important; border-left-style: solid !important; border-left-color: transparent !important; border-right-width: 1.12em !important; border-right-style: solid !important; border-right-color: transparent !important;"></section><section class="" style="padding-top: 1px; padding-right: 5px; padding-left: 5px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-top-color: rgb(123, 191, 234); display: inline-block; border-top-width: 2px; border-top-style: solid; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">故事1</strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我有一个朋友，不谙世事，不善交际，有一份稳定工作和中等收入。与许多独生子女一样，她在父母支持下买房买车，一个人住着140平方的房子，每日按部就班地开车上下班，不知不觉年过三十。也是<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">在三十岁这一年，她放弃了这一切，选择北漂，租房、挤地铁……</strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">当然有人会说她傻，可她却比以前开心多了。她离开这个小城的唯一理由是<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">孤独</span></strong>，同时，她又不愿像长辈们所说的那样，随便找个人结婚生子告别孤独——那样的话，也许会更孤独。</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">在某些人看来，这种孤独似乎有点矫情。他们还会搬出“适应社会”这一万能法则，告诉你这是你自身的问题，你要改变自己，释放自己，接触社会，就能有更广阔的圈子。可是，这个说法<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">从根本上抹杀了人与人之间原本就具有的差异，忽略了人的个性。</strong>价值观的差异也与身份、地位无关，即使都是高学历，即使都有体面的工作，但一个读哈耶克、萨义德和《古拉格群岛》的人，又怎么可能和一个除了课本再没读过其他书的人有心灵上的契合呢？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">在人际交往上，我们最多只能做到礼节上的互不侵犯，但越是交心，越不可能越过价值观的差异。因为价值观而造成的孤独，无法因为自身的改变而缓解。而且，即使改变，也只能就高不就低，也就是说，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">你可以让自己变得更好，去适应别人的高度，但无法刻意拉低自己的智商，去迁就比自己更平庸的人</span></strong>。</p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">在男权社会里，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">有较高文化素养和能力的女性，更容易在小城市里感受到这种孤独</strong>。工作没有挑战性，缺少有共同话题的朋友，找不到看得上眼的男人，还要因为没拍拖、不结婚和没生孩子这样的事情被当成异端，这已经不仅仅是孤独的问题，更关乎尊严的丧失。</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，一个人越出色，小城市的面目就越可憎。但小城市仍然只是小城市，<span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">你依然要忍受以下这些事情：</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.6; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">你还是得自己开着车跑去大城市看话剧和演唱会；</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">老一辈永远关心你为什么二十五岁了怎么还不结婚？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">结婚都一年了怎么还不生孩子？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">即使是年轻人，坐下来就跟你谈赢在起跑线上的孩子经？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">有时，我甚至会有这样的错觉：能忍受这些，简直需要比在大城市打拼还要多万倍的勇气。当然，后来我明白了，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">这不是勇气，而是妥协和懦弱</span></strong>。大城市当然也存在这些问题，但你起码有躲开的几率，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果你有足够能力，在大城市里还可以主宰自己的生活。</strong></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></strong></p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 40.332px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 495.508px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 2.6em; height: 2.6em; display: inline-block; vertical-align: middle; line-height: 2.6em; border-radius: 50%; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(123, 191, 234);"><section style="margin-top: 0.36em; margin-bottom: 0.35em; margin-left: 0.44em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 1.8em; height: 1.8em; line-height: 1.8em; border-radius: 50%; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 26.9922px; height: 26.9922px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">2</section></section></section></section><section style="margin: -0.5em auto 0.3em; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; width: 0px; border-top-width: 1.1em; border-top-style: solid; border-top-color: rgb(123, 191, 234); word-wrap: break-word !important; border-left-width: 1em !important; border-left-style: solid !important; border-left-color: transparent !important; border-right-width: 1.12em !important; border-right-style: solid !important; border-right-color: transparent !important;"></section><section class="" style="padding-top: 1px; padding-right: 5px; padding-left: 5px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-top-color: rgb(123, 191, 234); display: inline-block; border-top-width: 2px; border-top-style: solid; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;">故事2</section></section></section></section></section><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></section></section></section></section><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 40.332px; word-wrap: break-word !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我有一个朋友，他的故乡在一个内陆不发达省份的小城，他曾说过这样一句话：“我死也不会回去的，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">因为我不想在二十多岁时看到自己六十岁的样子。</span></strong>”因为，在那样的小城里，除了公务员、国企、学校、医院之外，你几乎没有什么其他的选择。他用可以在老家买别墅的钱，供了一套北京的小房子，然后告诉我：“房子再小， 也是我买的，路再难，也是我自己选的，这样的话，谁也没有借口来干涉我的生活。”</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我知道，<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(123, 191, 234); box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">这就是勇气</span></strong>。它似乎可以回应某些老人的另一种荒谬论调——年轻人选择大城市是一种逃避，比如逃避生活的责任和传宗接代的重任等。且不说年轻人选择大城市大多有着理想和追求的因素，即使真的是逃避，我也建议持此论调的人先检讨一下自己：</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">为什么人家<strong style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;">甘愿放弃安逸</strong>，</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">以孤身去大城市打拼的代价</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">去逃避你以及你所期盼的那些东西，</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">是什么让你和你的期望</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">比巨大的生活压力和激烈竞争更恐怖？</p><p><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: justify; word-wrap: break-word !important;">我只能说：越是没有能力选择自己生活的人，越是庸碌无知的人，越喜欢嘲笑那些有勇气去承受压力的人。</section><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></section></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;">不够现实的乌托邦，总会引来嘲笑。但是，</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">二十多岁的你，</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">是希望看到一个乌托邦，</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;">还是看到自己六十岁时的样子呢？</p><p style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;" /></p><p><section class="" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border: 0px none; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto; margin-left: auto; padding-right: 15px; padding-left: 15px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important; word-wrap: break-word !important; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><p style="max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; 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