转载:知见心理学创始人恰克•史匹桑诺博士每月一信:2018年1月放下执着

一月永远是全年的种子。种子还不知道它将变成什么,它仅仅是一份存在,并且在这份存在中孕育着新的开始。随着时间的推移,种子会陆续地发芽。一月应该是一段简洁的时光。因为如果在一月有太多乱七八糟的放纵和细枝末节的追求,我们就会被各种各样的分心干扰阻滞而无法前行,因而接下来的一年也不会如期展开。任何心灵分裂很容易把我们带回到过往的古旧伤痛中,但我们却相信这是现在刚刚发生的事情造成的。因为我们总是忘了所有的痛苦都是为了疗愈,而所有的疗愈都是过往在当下的呈现。

January is always the seed of the year. The seed does not know what it will become, it simply is and in its being there are new beginnings. There are sprouts that will extend from it as the year unfolds. January is always meant to be a time of purity because if there is too much ofthe indulgent detritus and trivial pursuits in January then we get bogged down in miscellaneous distractions and the year does not become what it was meant tobe in its unfolding. Where there is a split mind we can easily be returned tothe pain of old trauma and believe it is happening now for the first time forgetting that everything that is not happy is for healing and that allhealing is a healing of the past showing up in the present.

一颗种子,只有放下所有的执着,才能落入土壤,开始一个新的循环,一个更优越、更丰盛的周期。一旦还有执着或隐藏执着的幻想,放下就不能发生,领受就被卡住。有两种类型的执着会阻碍我们的发展。一种是对负向的过往、对某种怨恨的放不下,另一种则是对某些正向的过往紧抓不放。负面过往让我们感到恐惧而充满责备,用来隐藏因分离隔阂带来的内疚感,这是受害者真实上演的情形。如果你能看穿自己的潜意识,你会发现,你责怪别人的地方,就是你自欺欺人之处。你的角色就是让受害者的剧本可以演下去。你刻意要分离,又搞成是对方的过错和痛苦造成分离的,你为此感到内疚,就假借怨恨来掩饰。这种怨恨的执着类型会形成一种模式,带出原初的痛苦,从而引发新的烦恼和创伤发生。然而,如果我们专注在疗愈上,当我们超越痛苦、对过去和现在都不再抱怨,并且为了新的开始,允许自己被一股力量彻底砸开,新生就出现了!这股力量似乎来自外在,其实是由内而生。小我总是企图将旧痛混淆在一起来构建自我,而高层心灵则透过脱下本以为是防卫、实质却是自我局限的外壳,为疗愈和新生提供机会。这种僵化外壳限制了我们的思想和生命。第二种类型的执着是一种补偿。我们透过幻想、试图让幻相来满足我们的需要,以缓和和掩盖旧有的创伤。这种拿或取的态度会导致呈独立或受害,因为人们在索取的态度时自然就会退缩。我们总是想与旧有的创伤解离,但这只会导致我们不真的独立。现在我们把过去变得像个受害者——不管是真正的独立,还是呈独立——我们都是真正的受害者,因为这种牺牲和退缩的模式,阻挡了我们领受的能力。

Only by letting go of all attachments can aseed fall to the earth and begin a new cycle, which is always better and more abundant. But if there are attachments or fantasy which hide old attachmentsthen the letting go does not happen and the receiving is blocked. There are two types of attachment that can impede our progress. The first is the attachmentto the negative past coming from a grievance and the second one is holding onto something positive. The negative past keeps us fearful and full of blame inorder to hide our guilt for separating which is really what goes on in a victimsituation. If you could see into your subconscious you could see that where you blame another you have deceived yourself about your part in it. Your part in it is what set the victim situation in play. You used the grievance to hide whereyou feel guilt for willfully separating and using another’s error, suffering and acting out as the excuse to separate. This grievance type of attachment sets up a pattern that brings up the original pain in such a way that a newupset or trauma can occur. Yet, if we are focused on healing, a birth occurs as we transcend the pain, give up the blame, past and present, allow ourselves to be cracked open for a new beginning by the force that seems to be outside but is really within us. The ego attempts to compound the old pain to build itself while the higher mind is providing the opportunity for healing and birth with the relinquishment of a shell that was meant to be a defense but only constricted us. This calcification limits our mind and our life. The second type of attachment is a compensation where we fantasize and seek to get our needs met through illusion in order to assuage and cover over the old wounds.This attitude of getting or taking can lead to independence or victimization as people naturally withdraw from a taking attitude. We attempt to dissociate the wounds of the past but this only makes us independent in an untrue way. Whether the past shows up in the present by us acting like a victim who is really independent or as an independent, who is really a victim it is a form of sacrifice and withdrawal that preventsour ability to receive.

2018年1月是一个可以卸除过去的月份,因此今年在关系上会收获巨大的成果,但前提是我们必须坚持成长和向前移动。这会迎来恰当的关系和领受奖赏的能力,包括在金钱、创造力、愿景等方面,同时还包括其他回报的方式。今年是一个完成之年、是一个九年循环的最后一年。不是功到自然成,就不算完成。我们有些人终于完成了在生活中早年开始的周期。生命中只要有受苦之处,就是我们害怕向前移动的地方。取而代之,我们选择受苦,好作为借口和躲藏。相反,我们可以摒弃依赖和控制,然后带着信任、继续踏出下一步。今年,所有的未尽事宜都可以完成。接下来从2019年开始将展开一个更伟大、更喜悦、更灵性的循环周期,届时物质依赖更少、而更多的精神扬升。结合和连结越多,对物质的需求就越少。因此2018年的悖论是,之所以今年可以带来巨大的物质财富和成功,是因为对这些东西的依赖少了,因而更多的连结带来更多的领受。今年是一个快乐的金钱年,无论在内在世界还是外在世界都充满了爱和奇遇。矛盾的是,我们越是不追求金钱,越多的金钱涌向我们。我们对财富或任何东西的执着,正好阻碍我们对财富或者所想要东西的领受。在寻求和平、完整、完成、疗愈、爱与天堂的路上,请保持如实如是。其余的自然会赐予你的。

January of 2018 is meant to be a monthwhere we have relinquished the past so that the relationships for this year can bring great fruition but only if we are seeking progress and stepping forward.This welcomes right relationship and the ability to receive rewards in the form of money, creativity, vision and other forms of return. This is a year that is a completion, the end of a nine-year cycle. Without receiving the natural reward there is no completion. Some of us are finally completing cycles that began earlier in our lives. Wherever we suffered in our lives is where we were actually afraid to go forward and instead chose to suffer as the means to havean excuse and hide. Instead we could have relinquished attachment and controland then with trust we could have gone on to the next step. This is a year where all incompletes can be finished and as a result an even greater, happier,more spiritual cycle can begin in 2019 with less material dependency but more spiritual upliftment. The more there is joining and connection the less there is a need for things. The paradox of 2018 is that this year can bring a lot of material wealth and success because there is less attachment to such things and therefore there is greater bonding that brings more receiving. This is a happymoney year with an abundance of both love and adventure on inner and outer planes. The paradox is that the more we are not seeking money as such, the more money can come to us. Our attachment to wealth or anything is in the way of our receiving wealth or whatever we want. Be as singular in your desire for peace,wholeness, completion, healing, Love and Heaven. The rest will be given to you.

让自己在一月份全然投入吧!否则因为没有承诺,大量的混乱缠身会让你自己变得像火车残骸。这是一个累积的年份,生命中的未尽事宜会增加到超过大多数的一月份。检视一下你在哪些事情上还坚持自己是对的,这正是你掩盖过去的伤痛,以及对过往的发生和现在缺乏承诺的内疚。一月永远不会是一个靠岸的月份,因为我们的心灵分裂会带出很多可怕的经历。如果不全然投入,我们无法到达想要去的地方,也无法达成灵魂为我们此生设定的天命目的。这个月的任务就是让我们接受召唤,确保目标不离视野、不被分心干扰掩盖、带着信任持续前行。

Let yourself be dedicated in Januarybecause without commitment the amount of turbulence you can experience willmake you feel like a train wreck. This is a cumulative year. What is unfinishedin our life can come up even more than in most Januaries. Examine where you arebeing right about something because it simply hides old pain and where you feelguilty about the past and your lack of commitment now. January is never a monthto coast as it can bring up frightful experiences that come from oursplit-mind. Without dedication we won't get to where we want to go and thedestination of our destiny that our soul set for us in this life. This monthour mission is calling to us. Do not drown it out in distraction. Keep yourgoal in sight and move forward with trust.

只要有问题,就是我们在欺骗自己。我们因为失去了信任而变得害怕。然而,我们的心灵力量永远不会消失殆尽。我们要么投资恐惧,要么投资信任。如果我们信任,则有失去的地方,就会有新生。信任代表我们不可阻挡。生命总会不停前进和展开。如果因为一些事情没有宽恕,造成心灵分裂,道路会坎坷崎岖、充满冲突。这个月让自己的心灵合一,把自己全然投入到使命中去。当面对似乎不可完成的任务时,在意图上成为一颗子弹、使命必达,在行动上全力以赴,这就可以邀请老天一展所长、带来奇迹。老天不受世间法则的限制。你有多大的礼物给出,牠就还你更大的。

Wherever we have a problem we have deceivedourself. We have lost trust and become fearful. Yet, the power of our mind cannever be fully lost. We will either invest it in fear or in trust. If we trustwhere there is a loss, it becomes a birth. Trust means we can't be stopped.Life will keep flowing and unfolding as a result. Have a split-mind because ofsomething unforgiven and it will be a rocky road full of conflict. Let yourmind become one-pointed this month. Give yourself utterly to your mission.Become a bullet in your desire to achieve what may seem unachievable but bygiving yourself fully it invites and allows Heaven to show off and bring themiracles. Heaven is not limited by the laws of this world. What greater giftcould you give then the gift of transcendence.

除了你自己,没有任何人可以剥夺你!我们用过去为借口来障碍自己,掩盖恐惧和内疚,而这是只会让小我完好无损。正因为这样,我们的爱和自爱都丧失了。这个借口比使命更重要。如果没有天真无邪,就不可能爱自己;相反,连自己都不爱,怎么可能天真无邪呢?然而这些都是疗愈的必备元素啊!对你而言,什么比假装快乐的目标更重要呢?如果我们不开心,则说明有东西比开心对我们更重要。似乎有些东西对我们来说更珍贵,甚至比拥有真爱、财富和健康的目标更重要。我们对当下幸福的承诺可以疗愈过往的冲突,让我们在“一”里,而全神贯注则表明我们可以迅速移动。

Only you can deprive yourself of anything. We use the excuse of the past to stop ourselves and hide our fear and guilt that keep the ego intact. Because of this, love and self-love was lost. The excuse is more important to us than our mission. Without innocence there is no self-love and without self-love there is no innocence. These elements areessential to healing. What is more important to you than your ostensible goal of happiness? If we are not happy then there is something more important to us than being happy. What seems more precious to us is somehow more important than having goals of true love, wealth or health. Our commitment to happiness nowheals past conflicts and lets us be one-pointed and being focused means we move quickly.

Chuck Spezzano

2018年1月

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