One of the most powerful explanations of unforgiveness I have ever heard is that it's like drinking a poison and expecting the other person to die.

我听过的对不宽恕最有力的解释之一是，它就像喝了毒药，却希望另一个人死去。

Hatred is like a poison which you inject into your veins, before injecting it into your enemy. It is throwing cow dung at another: you dirty your hands first, before you dirty others.

仇恨就像毒药，在注入你的敌人之前，先注入你的血管里。这是向别人扔牛粪:先弄脏自己的手，再弄脏别人。

Each time we sip at the poison of unforgiveness, we add a bar to our self-made cage. We reinforce our own captivity and separate ourselves from the healing, deliverance, and blessings that God has available for us. Over and over again, I have heard hearts breaking with the sense of being trapped in the past, of never being able to break free, of having their lives dictated by the tragedy of their abuse. And it’s agonisingly true, because they cannot – or will not – forgive.

我们每饮一口不宽恕的毒，就给自己亲手建起的牢笼添了一道障碍。我们强化了自己的束缚，将自己与神给我们的治疗、拯救和祝福分开。我一次又一次地听到心碎的声音:被困在过去，永远无法挣脱，生活被虐待的悲剧所支配。这是令人痛苦的事实，因为他们不能——或不愿——原谅。

The poison of unforgiveness continually judges and condemns those we won’t forgive, thus compounding the problem. But the prison that is forged is our own. Our judgement, condemnation, and refusal to forgive are the raw materials that build our cage.

不宽恕的毒药不断地审判和谴责那些我们不愿宽恕的人，从而使问题复杂化。但监狱是我们自己锻造的。我们的判断、谴责和拒绝宽恕是构筑我们牢笼的原材料。

The real truth is that even if God were to strike that person down with a lightning bolt and declare their sin loudly in public, it wouldn’t change how we feel. We believe that holding onto unforgiveness is what punishes the person, whereas it doesn’t affect them one bit. They live untroubled lives, and we slide deeper into the addiction to the poison of unforgiveness. Hating them is our reason for living. The lie tells us that letting go of the thing that drives and sustains us will leave us with nothing. The lie says that unforgiveness is the only weapon we have.

事实上，即使上帝用闪电把那个人打倒，在公共场合大声宣告他们的罪，也不会改变我们的感受。我们相信坚持不宽恕是对人的惩罚，而这对他们一点影响都没有。他们过着无忧无虑的生活，而我们却越来越沉迷于不宽恕的毒害。恨他们是我们活着的理由。谎言告诉我们，放弃驱使和支撑我们的东西将会让我们一无所有。谎言说不宽恕是我们拥有的唯一武器。