前言:
历时27小时56分,终于刷完了我的第五本原著,英语的使用流畅性已经不同往日,在接触了此类带有哲学性的方法论后,我的生活已经开始了翻天覆地的变化,或许我对时间与自我的理解并没有以前想象的那么深入。是时候去重新读一遍我以前所读过的书籍了,想必定然少不了一些新的观点。下面先记录下部分内容的理解,应用和反馈。
概要:
本书名称虽然叫《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective people》,但实际讲的却是人类的“天赋”应用于自我认知,未来定位,领导,情绪控制,时间管理等各个方面。核心思想是:修身、“BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND ”---以终为始。
摘录:
1、Leadership is communicating other' worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.
2、You always reap what you sow ; there is no shortcut .
3、Into the hands of every individual is given a marvelous power for good or evil—the silent, unconscious, unseen influence of his life. This is simply the constant radiation of what man really is , not what he pretends to be.
4、Where we stand depends on where we sit.
5、We can't go very far to change our seeing without simultaneously changing our being,and vice versa.
6、The inside-out approach says that private victories precede public victories, that making and keeping promises to ourselves precedes making and keeping promises to others. It says it is futile to put personality ahead of character, to try to improve relationships with others before improving ourselves .
7、But it is also gravity pull that keeps our world together, that keeps the planets in their orbits and our universe in order. It is a powerful force, and if we use it effectively, we can use the gravity pull of habit to create the cohesiveness and order necessary to establish effectiveness in our lives.
8、Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
9、The principles don't change; our understanding of them does.
10、Your tool needs to reflect that value,to facilitate implementation rather than create guilt when a schedule is not followed.
11、SELF-MANAGER(the fourth-generation management)
11.1 IDENTIFYING ROLES. The first task is to write down your key roles .
11.2 SELECTING GOALS. The next step is to think of one or two important results you feel you should accomplish in each role during the next seven days.
11.3 SCHEDULING. Now you can look at the week ahead with your goals in mind and schedule time to achieve them.
11.4 DAILY ADAPTING. With Quadrant II weekly organizing, daily planning becomes more a function of daily adapting, of prioritizing activities and responding to unanticipated event, relationships, and experiences in a meaningful way.
案例分析与预演:
案例:
阅读本书以前,我的日常计划表往往是这样列出的:根据五年计划,分裂出年度目标,再分裂出月度目标,最后是周目标,日目标。环环相扣,非常精密(如下图)。一旦出现突发事件,就要整体性改动,同时,计划失败往往造成难以平复的挫败感,暴躁易怒。
分析:
①计划严密,灵活性不高
②未来规划不清楚,五年计划也只是随大流盲从
③计划中断时情绪反扑,导致难以持续恶性循环。
④虽然能完成计划,但意志力消耗非常大,对待周围人时,不再具有约束情绪的能力。
⑤倾向于“存天理,灭人欲”。
预演:
按照本书理论,两周前更新到第四代的自我管理。以终为始,确定了临终时我想要的各种评价(同事,亲属,父母,子女,朋友,对手,社会等),并根据每种角色的评价,明确了核心结果的实现条件,由各自条件设定了各自的具体待完成事项。每周分配各种待完成事项,当日出现突发事件时,推迟原计划事项即可,计划推迟也不会打乱整个计划体系,因为我完成近乎的每一件事,都是在接近我的临终愿望。
感想:书籍时人类进步的阶梯,借着智人天赋---想象,我们可以经历各个作者的一生,存活多世,由此快速获取面向未来的优势。了解的越多,越能感觉到智人的可塑性是多么的可怕。正如文中所说的“自我意识”、“想象”、“责任”、“独立意志”,每一种天赋都是我们收获的最好礼物。王阳明的“知行合一”和Covey Stephen R的“以终为始”将会带给我以新的变革。我的生命带着终结,刚刚开始。