《相约星期二（汉英对照）》

About cultrue

About  Marriage

there are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don't

respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to

compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on

between you, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of

values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike

You get tested. You find out who you

are, who the other person is, and how you accommodate or don't.

But the poor kids today, either they're too selfish to take part in a real loving relationship, or

they rush into marriage and then six months later, they get divorced. They don't know what

they want in a partner. They don't know who they are themselves-so how can they know who

they're marrying?

About Love

love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.

"I believe in being fully present," Morrie said. "That means you should be with the person

you're with. When I'm talking to you now, Mitch, I try to keep focused only on what is going

on between us. I am not thinking about something we said last week. I am not thinking of

what's coming up this Friday. I am not thinking about doing another Koppel show, or about

what medications I'm taking.

Learning to pay attention? How important could that be? I now know it is more important

than almost everything they taught us in college.

Part of the problem, Mitch, is that everyone is in such a hurry," Morrie said. "People haven't

found meaning in their lives, so they're running all the time looking for it. They think the next

car, the next house, the next job. Then they find those things are empty, too, and they keep

running.

About   Money

Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. I can tell you, as I'm sitting here dying, when you most need it, neither money nor power will give you the feeling you're looking for, no matter how much of them 

you have There's a big confusion in this country over what we want versus what we need."The truth is, you don't get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives yousatisfaction?"  hat?"Offering others what you have to give."

Remember what I said about finding a meaningful life? I wrote it down, but now I can recite it: 

Devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.

if you're trying to show off for

people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you anyhow. And if you're trying to show

off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere.

Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone

About  Aging 

"How can I be envious of where you are-when I've been there myself?"

"It's very simple. As you grow, you learn more. If you stayed at twenty-two, you'd always be

as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know. It's growth. It's

more than the negative that you're going to die, it's also the positive that you understand

you're going to die, and that you live a better life because of it."

He smiled. "You know what that reflects? Unsatisfied lives. Unfulfilled lives. Lives that

haven't found meaning. Because if you've found meaning in your life, you don't want to go

back. You want to go forward. You want to see more, do more. You can't wait until sixty-five.

"Listen. You should know something. All younger people should know something. If you're

always battling against getting older, you're always going to be unhappy, because it will

happen anyhow

"The truth is, part of me is every age. I'm a three-year-old, I'm a five-year-old, I'm a thirty-

seven-year-old, I'm a fifty-year-old. I've been through all of them, and I know what it's like. I

delight in being a child when it's appropriate to be a child. I delight in being a wise old man

when it's appropriate to be a wise old man. Think of all I can be! I am every age, up to my

own. Do you understand?"

About Emotions

But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, `All right. I haveexperienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.' "

Turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the emotion. It won't hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, "All right, it's just fear, I don't have to let it control me. I see it for what it is."s

About Family

"This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there's someone

who is watching out for them. It's what I missed so much when my mother died-what I call

your `spiritual security'-knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing

else will give you that. Not money. Not fame.Not work.

About Death

Learn how to die, and you learn how to live.

We are too involved in materialisticthings, and they don't satisfy us. The loving relationships we have, the universe around us, we

take these things for granted.

 2020-05-24 12:36:32

永生的是爱，代代流传

只要我们彼此相爱，并把它珍藏在心里，我们即使死了也不会真正地消亡。你创造的爱依然存在着。所有的记忆依然存在着。你仍然活着——活在每一个你触摸过爱抚过的人的心中

 2020-05-24 12:35:39

“死是很自然的，”他说。“我们之所以对死亡大惊小怪，是因为我们没有把自己视作自然的一部分。我们觉得既然是人就得高于自然。”

 2020-05-24 09:50:29

去感受那些我们躺在床上就能感受的东西，心情才能真正的平静下来，远离外部的物质世界。

他说他正在远离外面的世界，不再像以前那么多地听人读报，也不太关心来往的信件，更多时候是听听音乐，看窗外的树叶渐渐地变换颜色。

 2020-05-24 09:49:08

we need help anytime.

在生命的中途，我们同样需要别人活着

 2020-05-24 09:48:08

小社会，小法则，小幸福，形成小文化。这个提法很新颖。小问题，遵章守纪，大问题自己决定。

建立一个由你爱的人和爱你的人组成的小社会

 2020-05-05 13:03:45

我们需要的不仅仅是物质财富，更重要的还需要精神的财富，比较而言，物质的财富，你总是能很快的消耗掉，而且也并不需要太多。然而精神的财富却让我们拥有心灵上的富足和心理上的满足，并且精神财富的追求是永无止境。让我们不断有成就感获得感。

许多病人都很有钱，来自富有的家庭，显然财富并没有为他们带来幸福和满足。这是莫里永远不会忘记的经验教训。

 2020-05-05 12:56:45

大道至简，那是修行，大隐隐于市，工作即修行…全身心的投入到你的生活中去，接纳一切，好你坏的感情，真实的去体会，然后你才能超然于事外。以上帝的视角，去审视自己的，过去现在及未来。

你在思考了，米奇。但超脱并不是说不投入到生活中去。相反，你应该完完全全地投入进去。然后你才走得出来。”我迷惘了。“接受所有的感情——对女人的爱恋，对亲人的悲伤，或像我所经历的：由致命的疾病而引起的恐惧和痛苦。如果你逃避这些感情——不让自己去感受、经历——你就永远超脱不了，因为你始终心存恐惧。你害怕痛苦，害怕悲伤，害怕爱必须承受的感情伤害。“可你一旦投入进去，沉浸在感情的汪洋里，你就能充分地体验它，知道什么是痛苦，什么是悲伤。只有到那时你才能说，‘好吧，我已经经历了这份感情，我已经认识了这份感情，现在我需要暂时超脱它’。”

 2020-05-05 12:47:41

家就是无论你多晚回来，总有那么一盏灯，为你点亮，等你回来。家是真正温馨的港湾，是我们放下所有的心理准备，完完全全得到滋养和恢复的地方，因为这里有不计成本的爱，不记得失的爱，无条件的爱。

‘心理安全’——知道有一个家在守护着你。只有家庭能给予你这种感觉。金钱办不到。名望办不到。”他看了我一眼。“工作也办不到，

 2020-05-05 11:01:22

你们往往对最关键的问题选择回避逃避，视而不见，其实一旦解决了关键的问题，那就会处处变得畅通。

一旦你学会了怎样去死，你也就学会了怎样去活。一旦你学会了怎样去死，你也就学会了怎样去活。”

 2020-05-05 10:57:37

把生命中的每一天当成是最后一天，向死而生，让自己死而无憾！悲观的人，每活一天就觉得少了一天；乐观的人，每活一天就觉得多活了一天，要每一天都过得更精彩！

死而无憾

 2020-05-04 11:15:19

The most important things in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.If life is just like a wresting match, and which side wins? love wins,love always wins.

人生最重要的是学会如何施爱于人，并去接受爱。