so you've talked a lot about things we should do .but what about stopping doing things or breaking bad habits?

it's the hardest thing, right? what's your advice about for giving up sugar,or alchohol alcohol or other addicted (obsessive) behaviors?

actually ,I don't suggest that people fight with themselves ,and they or avoid or giving up anything.

because that's a violence that fight yourself.

because that would constitute violence against yourself.

I learned from M, who developed a non-violence communicaton system.

instead of breaking (takeing away)bad thingthe bad),you should  add good things. you add something good.

and you will find the exciting and interesting new habits can replace the bad habits in a naturally way.

that will naturally substitute.

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ok,for example,like watching too much TV, or addicting to smart phone.you try the best to play out or do something like this.

ok for example ,let's say you watch too much TV, or you're addicted to your smartphone.you would try to play outside or do something like that.

you can develop a lot of new habits, and see what is suitable for you.

well ,you can develop a lot of new habits and see what works for you.

(be suitable for =what works for )

one of my findings is that the willpower is very finite resource.

one of the things that I discovered for myself is that willpower is a very finite resource.

(英语很喜欢用定语从句；先行词不清楚用thing代替)

we have no infinite willpower, so we have to use it contiously in a short distance.that doesn't fit in marathons.

we don't have infinite amounts of willpower, so we need to use it sparingly on short distances.it's not for marathons.

(sparingly  节省地；be not for =be suitable for)

my advce is that when you are starting a new habit and you think it good for you.

what I suggest, when you're establishing a new habit that you feel that is right habit for you.

(think=feel)

you have to use a little bit willpower to repeat enough times.

grenerally, probably 21 days.

usually, magic number is 21 days.

really? 21 days,why is 21days?

I have no idea, but this magic number appeared regularly in the different tradition from eastern or western or psychology.

------------------but this number keeps popping up from different traditions in East and West and also psychology.

(pop up 出现  keep doing  表示反复，一直出现)

and this is also my personal practice and is very useful.

and I saw it in my own pratice that it works.

(定语从句变成一句话，it works =be useful)