On Children
——纪伯伦
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
喜欢小时候家里暖暖的充满爱和希望的感觉。没有任何目的，简单快乐只因为每个人之间单纯的爱很浓厚。
然后孩子渐渐长成了大人，大人渐渐变成了老人，不知道是大人太过于自私为了梦想而逃避赡养的责任义务，还是老人太过于自私害怕失去，害怕年龄的持续增长，只想圈养住每一个孩子。爱慢慢的因为各种原因开始变得稀薄，矛盾开始升华。
听过一个词被叫做“时代弊病”，因为时间差，年轻的总会比年老人显得更先进，或许这就是年代造成的代沟吧！然而时间是不能重返的。假如老人可以重返年轻，还会那样深爱这个孩子吗？还是会选择更好的方式去爱呢？
有时很羡慕西方国家孩子年满18岁就可以自己选择自己的生活，至少这样可以保留了孩子的独立思想，同时也让大人可以更好的追求自己的理想，也不会有年老后的恐慌。
然而深受传统思想的影响，人心都是偏于自私的，有时过了，反而成了社会停滞不前的原因。
不是在否定养幼赡老的美德，而是希望大家都可以好好珍惜享用这得之不易的生命，大家都是独立完整的灵魂，真正的去感知生命的真谛，释放自己的光芒，成就自己更好的灵魂即可。
爱不应该是独自占用，真正的爱是适度的呵护和爱戴，人生仅一次单程旅行，谁都有资格享受他的美好，无论对自己还是对孩子，爱的刚刚好最好。
