Fake it Till You Make it

10 Ways to Feel Confident (Even when you aren’t)

Is your self-confidence natural, or a daily struggle?

你的自信心是天生还是练习而来？

Many people’s confidence naturallywaversfrom day to day, leaving them too timid or confused at just the wrong time. Whether you are naturally confident or could use some better eye contact with your life, setting in place a few simple strategies goes a long way to stoke your inner confidence.

许多人自信心每天变化，总是在错误时间上过于羞怯或困惑。无论你天生自信或需要与生活进行更多眼神交流，设定一些简单的策略能够增强内在自信心。

If you think you’re not especially smart or capable, or that failure is a given no matter how hard you try, you’re right.

如果你认为你并没有那么聪明或有能力或认为无论你多么努力失败终会来临，你是对的。

And if you believe you’re brilliant and can accomplish anything you set your mind to, you’re right.

如果你相信你极为聪明，能够实现任何想要做的事情，你是对的。

Amplifying your inner confidence is like any other skill you develop; you can do it in a blink. Day by day, step by step, you will get closer to your goals. No one runs a marathon fueled by decision alone. It takes days, weeks, and months of consistent exercise before your muscles, lungs and stamina will harmonize enough to give you winning results.

增强你的内在自信就像你想要培养的其他技能。（可能）眨眼间就可以发展，（也可能）日复一日，一步一脚印，你会离你的目标越来越近。没有人能仅靠决定完成马拉松。日复一日、周复一周和月复一月的持续练习使你的肌肉、肺部和意志足够协调，从而抵达终点。

Same with confidence. Use these 10 tips to start appearing as confident on the outside as you will soon feel on the inside.

自信心同理。采用以下10个方法开始由外部展现自信，渐渐你内在自信就会出现。

It’s not about you. Understand people’s actions, even when hurtful, rarely have anything to do with you. It’s easy to read into the negativity of others and see it as a slight to our personality or challenge to our ego. Yet this type of reaction can trigger unnecessary stress and prevent you from focusing on the positive things in your life. People are people; there’s never a need to link their behavior and your happiness. Knowing this gives you freedom to feel the confidence you deserve.

首先，你并不是世界关注的焦点。其实，人们的行为，即便是伤人的，也很少与你有关。察觉别人的消极面并将其认为是对自己的怠慢或挑战极易发生。这种反应会引发不必要压力，并使你忽略生命中积极事情。他人即他人。没有必要将自己的幸福建立在他人的行为之上。记住这个，能够解放你应得的自信。

Buy clothes that fit. Wearing clothes that fit well and flatter, no matter the shape of your body, provides an enormous boost to your self esteem. Don’t wait until you’ve arrived at a magical ideal to start dressing your best. Clothes never make the person, but it’s hard to feel confident inside when your outside sends signals of uncertainty. Love what you’re wearing and the world is likely to love it too.

购买适合的衣物。无论你身材如何，穿合身且你开心的衣服。这能够激发你的自尊。不要等到你身材达到理想状态才开始打扮你自己。衣服虽不能代表个人，但当你的外在散发不确定信号时，你很难感受内在自信。爱你所穿，世界也会如此。

Keep laughing. Let your brain give vent to the endorphins that will fill you with authentic happiness and internal confidence. Laughter releases some of the tension that invariably builds in your body each day.Pepper your routine with the people or media that make you most happy. You don’t have to overdo it, but a bit of levity goes a long way toward elevating your level of confidence.

保持微笑。让你的大脑分泌安多芬，这种激素能够让你感受到真实的快乐和内在自信。欢笑缓解每天一定存在的压力。用让你感受快乐的人和事点缀你日常生活。不用过火，细微变化能够提升你的自信程度。

Embrace the quiet. Many people are eager to populate every waking second with activity. With a world moving at the speed of broadband, the problem blooms more with every passing day. Realize you can be comfortable alone with your thoughts and you will provide your internal processes the space needed to develop. This will make you more comfortable with yourself, helping you appear more confident to others.

拥抱安静。许多人希望醒来的每一秒都是活跃的。在互联网时代，这种情况越发严重。你需要了解，你能够与你自己的想法舒适相处，为你内在思想所需的空间去自我发展。这会使你对自己更加自信，帮助你向他人展现更多自信。

Make a budget. If this isn’t natural for you, take the time to do it anyway. Claiming control of your finances is an early step to a healthy attitude about money. Though many people believe confidence comes with having lots of cash, confidence accompanies a clear picture of what you have and what you need.

做预算。如果你不擅长如此，花些时间着手这么做。控制你的财务是健康对待金钱的第一步。虽然许多人认为自信伴随财富而来，但自信来自于清晰了解你拥有什么和渴望什么。

Don’t gossip. Exit conversations that swim in hearsay. Indulging in idle chatter might make you feel in the loop, but the feeling is fleeting and will leave you wondering what others are saying about you when you’re not around. Take the high road – you’ll feel better inside and appear far more confident to others around you.

别八卦。结束那些满是传闻的对话。沉溺自己在闲聊之中可能会让你有圈内人的感觉，但是这种感觉转瞬即逝并会让你好奇他人如何在背后如何谈论你。高标准，你内在会感觉更佳并会展现更多自信。

Do as you say and say as you do. This doesn’t mean you have to draw neat lines through all of life’s to-do’s, but if you articulate your goals, and start to accomplish them, easy ones first, you will develop a mindset of success. This, in turn, makes it easier to feel confident. Your goals could be anything from running your first 5K to finally cleaning out the garage; learning how to strum a guitar or play the piano. Whatever your goals, find something you truly desire, make a promise to see it through to the end, then feel the confidence of success.

言行合一。这并不意味着你必须严格执行你的”to-do”列表，但是当你清楚表述目标，行动，易事先来，最终你会形成一种成功心态。这使你更加自信。你的目标可以是第一次跑完5K、清理车库、学习弹吉他或钢琴。无论目标是什么，你真实想要的，对它做出承诺并致力于实现它，最终你会感受到成功的自信。

Make peace with your body. You will always want to stay active and improve your health, but your confidence comes with the understanding that no matter your size, shape, number of wrinkles or height, you are a person who deserves love and dignity from yourself and those around you. Truly know this, and confidence will bleed through your skin.

与身体和平相处。你永远想要保持活力和改善健康。但是，你的自信来自你应该了解：无论你的尺寸、身材、皱纹和身高，你值得获得自己和你周围其他人的爱与尊重。记住这些，你的皮肤都会散发自信光彩。

Realize you know more than you think you do. All those things you think everyone else just knows? Well, they don’t. If you don’t know something, there’s no shame in asking for the answer. Admitting you don’t have the answer is the first step toward finding it, and the right answers pave the road to confidence.

意识到，你知道的远比你以为的多。你认为其他人知道所有事情？并非如此。如果你不知道某事，不要觉得羞耻去询问。承认无知是发现答案的第一步，而答案的发觉能够带来自信。

Be enthusiastic. Playing it cool is a great way to ignore your honest emotions and bury the authentic you. Be happy and excited, and allow the world to see it. Your joy will be infectious, your confidence contagious.

保持热情。装酷使你忽略真实情感并掩埋真实的自己。开心，激动，并允许世界看到。你的快乐可以传染，自信也会。

You don’t have to follow all 10 of these tips, but they are starters that will help you find your internal confidence and boost your sense of self belonging. No one feels confident 100% of the time, but there are steps you can take to make yourself feel far more confident than you probably do now.

你并不是必须采用所有方法，但是这些是你发现内在自信和激发自我归属感的启动机。没有人总是100%自信，但是这些方法能够帮助你提升自信。

Start with any of the 10 items on this list, and start feeling better inside out today!

任选其一，开始感受更好的内在。

Confidence is the key to EVERYTHING.

自信是所有事情的关键。

Ever wondered exactly how self confident you actually are?

从未察觉你有多自信？