学会审视关联任务和目标，和反复进行步骤迭代；
坦诚的面对你的问题和原因；
接受不完美的自己；
用游戏的心态会有效率一些；
寻求他人的帮助；
再次强调学会面对焦虑，切换认识事物的视角；
总结：
你的价值观决定了你所想要的，即你的目标；
为了到达你的目标，你必须找到你的问题，并勇敢的面对它，接受它；
并且，你能分析出这些问题的根本原因，且制定出对应的解决问题的计划；
最后，你得用良好的习惯去执行计划，完成计划以达到你的目标；
Your values determine what you want——your goals. In order to achieve your goals , you will encounter problems that have to be diagnosed .Only you determine the root causes of these problems, can you design a plan to eliminate the problems .After having a good plan , you have to muster you self-discipline to implement what you have scheduled to do to succeed.
Remember the connection and iteration
To remember the connections between the tasks and the goals that they are meant to achieve, you just have to ask, “Why?” It is good to connect tasks to goals this way (with the “Why?”), because losing sight of the connections will prevent you from succeeding.
this 5-Step Process is iterative. This means that after completing one of the steps you will probably have acquired relevant information that leads you to modify the other steps.
If this process is working, goals will change much more slowly than designs, which will change more slowly than tasks. Designs and tasks can be modified or changed often (because you might want to reassess how to achieve the goal), but changing goals frequently is usually a problem because achieving them requires a consistent effort. I
To be honestly and deal with your weakness
To repeat, the best advice I can give you is to ask yourself what you want, then ask ‘what is true,’ and then ask yourself ‘what should be done about it.’ If you honestly ask and answer these questions you will move much faster towards what you want to get out of life than if you don’t!
As I mentioned before, everyone has weaknesses. The main difference between unsuccessful and successful people is that unsuccessful people don’t find and address them, and successful people do.
why is difficult to see our weakness and our own blind spots?
1)It is “ego barriers”—they find having weaknesses painful because society has taught them that having weaknesses is bad.
I believe that we would have a radically more effective and much happier society if we taught the truth, which is that everyone has weaknesses, and knowing about them and how to deal with them is how people learn and succeed.
2)Having a weakness is like missing a sense—if you can’t visualize what it is, it’s hard to perceive not having it.
Conclusion:
When you encounter that pain, try to remember that you can get what you want outof life if you can open-mindedly reflect, with the help of others, on what is standing in your way and then deal with it.
Seek for others' help
Being weak at any one of these steps is not a problem if you understand what you are weak at and successfully compensate for that weakness by seeking help.
Game mentality
Life is like a game where you seek to overcome the obstacles that stand in the way of achieving your goals .
You get better at this game through practice;
The game consists of a series of choices that have consequences;
You have the freedom to make whatever choices you want, though it’s best to be mindful of their consequences;
Again ,about the pain
The pain of problems is a call to find solution rather than a reason of unhappiness and inaction. It's pointless and harmful to become upset against the problems and choices that comes at you (though it is understandable);
What you should believe or consider twice
We all evolve at different paces, and it’s up to you to decide the pace at which you want to evolve;
The process goes better if you are as accurate as possible in all respects, including assessing your strengths and weaknesses and adapting to them.
Conclusion
Your values determine what you want——your goals. In order to achieve your goals , you will encounter problems that have to be diagnosed .Only you determine the root causes of these problems, can you design a plan to eliminate the problems .After having a good plan , you have to muster you self-discipline to implement what you have scheduled to do to succeed.
Else
The organization Outward Bound has a concept that is helpful in thinking about the optimal pace of personal evolution. They speak of a comfort zone, a stretch zone and a panic zone. It’s best to spend most of your time in the stretch zone.
