2017年8月25日 饶恕的外科手术
灵修主题：你如何从伤痛中重新振作
就位：
如果你们饶恕别人的过犯，你们的天父也必饶恕你们。 如果你们不饶恕别人，你们的父也必不饶恕你们的过犯。 (马太福音 6:14-15 新译本)
预备：
球员做久了，总会负伤。有些伤让你停赛一两天，有些伤一周，有些一年，有些甚至会结束一个球员的职业生涯。每一种伤都很难对付，都需要治疗。有一些甚至需要做手术。
身体的伤需要手术，心理上的伤也是如此。拐杖，绷带，冰袋对此种伤无效。有的时候唯一需要的就是饶恕的手术。饶恕不代表你赞同或原谅某人的做法，你也不必与施害者和好。不必假装你没有受伤，或者忘记所发生的一切。
如果你做外科手术，术后会留疤提醒你发生过的事。情感伤疤也会留在那里，即便你做了饶恕的手术。时间会让伤疤不那么明显，但是撞到伤疤依然会疼。因此，我们可以理解为饶恕也不是一劳永逸的事情。你可能需要一遍又一遍地原谅一个人，直到你最终释怀。
在生活中，我们要饶恕别人，是因为神饶恕了我们，也命令我们要饶恕别人。（以弗所书4：32 和马太福音6：14―15）神为什么让我们饶恕呢？因为祂知道饶恕是唯一挣脱愤怒，苦毒，和伤痛捆绑的办法。在英语中，bitter(苦毒）和better （变得更好）的区别就是字母 i(我）。我可以选择自己变成什么样子。
在罗马书12：19节，神说申冤在祂，不是我们。也就是说我们可以让神来对付他们，那不是我们的责任。我们的责任就只是饶恕。拒绝饶恕只能让我们更疼，让伤口加深，让毒性蔓延，直到我们无法再为基督效力。
今天，不要让拒绝饶恕逼你退场。我们要开始让饶恕治愈我们的伤口。
出发：
1.你需要饶恕谁？
2.是什么阻挡你把这个人交给神？
3.你什么时候做饶恕手术？
训练：
因为人人都犯了罪，亏缺了 神的荣耀， (罗马书 3:23 新译本)
亲爱的啊，不要为自己伸冤，宁可等候主的忿怒，因为经上记着，主说：“伸冤在我，我必报应。” (罗马书 12:19 新译本)
要互相友爱，存温柔的心，彼此饶恕，就像 神在基督里饶恕了你们一样。 (以弗所书 4:32 新译本)
Forgiveness Surgery
READY
“For if you forgive people their wrongdoing, your heavenly Father will forgive you as well. But if you don't forgive people, your Father will not forgive your wrongdoing.” - Matthew 6:14-15
SET
Any athlete who competes long enough will experience an injury. Some injuries sideline them for a day or two, some a week, some a year, and some are career-ending. But every one of them is difficult to deal with and must be treated. Some even go so far as requiring surgery.
Just as physical injuries require treatment, so do emotional injuries. Crutches, bandages and ice packs won't heal these emotional injuries. Sometimes, the only solution to these is the surgery of forgiveness. Forgiveness is not approving or excusing what someone did, and it's not necessarily reconciling with the person who caused the injury. It's not pretending you aren't hurt and it is not forgetting what happened.
For example, if you have surgery on your physical body, you have a scar to remind you of what took place. Emotional scars exist as well, even after the surgery of forgiveness. Over time, the scar's prominence fades, but if the scar is bumped, the pain returns. For that reason, we can also understand that forgiveness is not a one-time thing. You may have to forgive a person over and over again until you feel relief.
In life, we should forgive because God forgives us and commands us to forgive one another in Ephesians 4:32 and Matthew 6:14-15. Why does God ask us to forgive? Because He knows that forgiveness is the only way to break the power of anger, bitterness and pain. The difference between "bitter" and "better" is the letter "i." I get to choose which I become.
In Romans 12:19, God says that vengeance is His, not ours. That means we can let God deal with the other person because they are not our responsibility. Our responsibility is simply to forgive. Refusing to forgive only hurts us and allows the injury to fester until its poison seeps in, spreads and shuts down my effectiveness for Christ.
Today, don't allow unforgiveness to sideline you. Submit to the surgery of forgiveness and let the healing begin.
GO
Whom do you need to forgive?
What is keeping you from releasing this person to God?
When will you undergo the surgery of forgiveness?
WORKOUT
Romans 3:23
Romans 12:19
Ephesians 4:32
