一、Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
直面荒野：寻找真实的归属感和独立的勇气
4.27·Rating details·4,983 Ratings·685 Reviews
"True belonging doesn't require us to change who we are. It requires us to be who we are."
真正的归属感不需要我们改变自己，而是成为自己。
Brown argues that we're experiencing a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces four practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other.
She writes, "True belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary.
归属感需要我们相信自己并且属于自己，这样做以后无论是独处还是成为集体的一部分我们都能受人尊敬。
But in a culture that's rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, it's easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism.
但是在一个充满完美主义和讨好主义以及礼貌缺失的文化中，我们很容易保持安静，隐藏自己于这种意识形态中，或者去适应这种文化，而不是展现我们真实的自己，勇敢面对不确定性和批评。
But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others; it's a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. It's a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts."
但是真实的归宿感不是与人协商或共同完成的事情，它是一种每天的练习活动，需要我们诚实并保持真实。它是走心的个人承诺。
2、So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love
优秀到不能被忽视
4.09·Rating details·11,753 Ratings·1,196 Reviews
读书笔记已经做过，不做过多介绍。
书中的观点有：追随自己的激情靠不住。培养自己的职业资本。工作中那些稀少而又有价值的技能。选择那些比人愿意给你付钱的工作等等。
In this eye-opening account, Cal Newport debunks（揭穿；拆穿…的假面具）the long-held belief that "follow your passion" is good advice.
Not only is the cliché flawed-preexisting passions are rare and have little to do with how most people end up loving their work-but it can also be dangerous, leading to anxiety and chronic job hopping.
为什么人们最后不爱自己曾经很有激情的工作了。
After making his case against passion, Newport sets out on a quest to discover the reality of how people end up loving what they do. Spending time with organic farmers, venture capitalists, screenwriters, freelance computer programmers, and others who admitted to deriving great satisfaction from their work, Newport uncovers the strategies they used and the pitfalls they avoided in developing their compelling careers.
Matching your job to a preexisting passion does not matter, he reveals. Passion comes after you put in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, not before.
把你的工作与预先存在的激情搭配在一起并不可靠，激情来自于你把工作做的足够卓越以后，而不是工作之前。
With a title taken from the comedian Steve Martin, who once said his advice for aspiring entertainers was to "be so good they can't ignore you," Cal Newport's clearly written manifesto is mandatory reading for anyone fretting about what to do with their life, or frustrated by their current job situation and eager to find a fresh new way to take control of their livelihood. He provides an evidence-based blueprint for creating work you love.
SO GOOD THEY CAN'T IGNORE YOU will change the way we think about our careers, happiness, and the crafting of a remarkable life.
3、Grit
坚毅
4.07·Rating details·20,623 Ratings·1,930 Reviews
In this must-read book for anyone striving to succeed, pioneering psychologist Angela Duckworth shows parents, educators, athletes, students, and business people-both seasoned and new-that thesecret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a focused persistence called“grit.”Why do some people succeed and others fail? Sharing new insights from her landmark research on grit, MacArthur“genius”Angela Duckworth explains why talent is hardly a guarantor of success. Rather, other factors can be even more crucial such as identifying our passions and following through on our commitments.
目前这本是正在阅读，其中作者非常用心，每次阐述自己的观点或者提出一种新观点都会找到观点的来源和依据。这也是美国鸡汤和中国鸡汤的区别，美国鸡汤后面会有心理学试验的依据，还会给你它的出处。而中国的鸡汤就是喊口号。当你问道“这句话谁说的？你说这句话有什么依据？”这是中国的鸡汤书籍是回答不了的。所以中国鸡汤常见的套路就是“某名人说....”,“某个著名的试验说.....”，或者“隔壁的XXX说...”.
4、Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
安静：内向者的力量
4.04·Rating details·228,248 Ratings·17,972 Reviews
At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.
这是一本能够永久改变我们怎样看待内向者以及他们如何看待自己的书。
This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.
5、Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy
B计划
3.95·Rating details·16,516 Ratings·1,529 Reviews
这本书不做过多的介绍以前的读书笔记里写过，感兴趣的同学可以翻看以前的笔记。总之良心推荐特别好的一本书，尤其适合生活遇到困难的同学看看，面对生活的不幸，如何快速复原，拥有复原力，奋力反弹，过的更好。
After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again.“I was in‘the void,’”she writes,“a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.”Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity.“I want Dave,”she cried. Her friend replied,“Option A is not available,”and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
