日期：2021.02.17
【人物学习】
DD小侄女：
昨天小侄女DD和小侄子都在，小侄子要大一些。小侄女比较内敛和害羞。
两个人在炕上，拿一个枕头玩的不亦乐乎。小侄女模仿小侄子，说话做事，哥哥拿个啥，她也要拿个啥。一人分了一个枕头、枕巾，把枕头当米袋子，互相比较着谁的米多。一会又将枕巾当床单铺好，拿了小玩偶当小朋友，哄小朋友睡觉觉。哥哥拿了一个芒果塞在玩偶怀里，小侄女也有样学样的去拿一个放玩偶旁边。
别看小孩子，看着小哥哥有啥，小侄女也要喊着要啥。没有的话就开始不和谐起来，必须得有一个一致的才行。
穿着袜子可能会有些滑，她不直接表达说：妈妈帮我脱袜子，她说的是：妈妈，这个袜子老滑着往下掉。我们说没有呀，她就一定坚持就是不停的往下滑。她妈妈猜到她想脱袜子，就说要脱袜子嘛。她点点头。才多大的小屁孩，说话都是拐弯抹角的。
一会，爷爷骗着说我去游乐园呢，你们谁去，赶紧下来。哥哥毫无思考就看着爷爷的方向想要下去。小侄女给哥哥说：他骗你的，不去的。大家哄然大笑。小女孩果然心思更加细腻，当小男孩还深信不疑的时候，小女孩早已发现了破绽，淡定从容。
她愿意的时候，像哥哥一样不怕脏的滚在地板上玩。爱干净的时候，稍微看到一点点灰，就要拍干净不然就要换新的衣服。啥都想要到手，没有的话就开始哼唧，搞着哥哥给她也给一个。啥都喜欢说是我的。自己定的场景还需要大家一起配合才行。多了一些霸道和小公主气息。
所以你看，才3岁的小孩，小心思就已经很多了。
【作品学习与读书】
萨古鲁：家庭是一个让你超越好恶的训练场
Sadhguru: There are many associations we make to conduct our life process. We make associations of business, nationality, community. But among all these things, family is a fundamental association. You must understand family for what it is, and conduct it for what it is. The problem is we get overwhelmed with emotion and raise it to another place, which it is not. In many ways, my mother never tried to influence us in any way. By not wanting to influence us, she was the biggest influence. What human beings have to offer you, and what you have to offer them should not be trampled upon. But the illusions we create around them must be trampled upon, otherwise we will miss the beauty of people coming together and sharing things.
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：我们建立了很多组织来构建我们的生活。我们建立商业、国家和社区。但其中，家庭是最基本的组织。你必须理解家庭是什么，并以此来引导家庭。问题是我们被情绪淹没了，并把家庭引向了另一个地方。在很多层面上，我的母亲从不试图以任何方式影响我们。借由这样的“无为”，她做出了最大的“有为”，她给我们带来了最大的影响。那些人类可以提供给你的，以及你可以奉献给人类的，不应当被践踏。但是，那些我们在人们周围所制造的幻相必须被摧毁，否则，我们将错过人们聚在一起相互分享的美好。
In many ways, family means “the closest association.” That means you have to constantly step on each other’s feet. When you constantly step on each other’s feet because you are sharing the same space, it brings a certain level of understanding and maturity. Suppose you have a Facebook family. You can have a family of 10,000 without any problems because you don’t have to share anything with anybody except pictures. It does not challenge you. Suppose you do not like someone on Facebook, you can just click and they are gone! That is not the case with family. One moment, they do something and you hate them, but you can’t click them away.
在许多层面上，家庭意味着“最亲密的组织”，这意味着大家难免会不断踩到彼此的脚。当你因为分享同一个空间而时不时踩到别人的脚时，这会带来一定程度的理解和成熟。假设你在脸书（Facebook）上成立一个家庭，即使拥有一个一万人的家庭也不会有任何问题，因为除了分享照片之外，你不必与他人分享任何东西。它不会挑战到你。假设你不喜欢脸书上的某个人，你只要一点鼠标，他们就不见了！但家人不是这样的。某个时刻，他们做了某些事，你怨恨他们，可你没法一点鼠标就让他们离开。
Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes.
家庭是让你超越好恶的训练场。
When people stay together, either by bondage or choice, they mature because maturity happens when you rise above your likes and dislikes. There are so many things that you do not like about your parents, children, husband, wife. Initially, it irritates the hell out of you, but after some time, you rise beyond it. If you rise beyond it by giving in and saying, “The hell with it!” that will not help. But if you rise beyond it consciously, you have turned spiritual. Without intention, you have become spiritual. That is the most beautiful way to do it.
当人们住在一起时，无论是出于束缚或是选择，他们都会变得成熟。当你超越好恶时，你就成熟了。在你的父母、孩子、丈夫、妻子身上，有那么多你不喜欢的地方。一开始，它让你抓狂，但过了一段时间之后，你就会超越这一切。如果你放弃了，说：“让它见鬼去吧！”，这么做不会有任何帮助。但如果你有意识去超越，你就变得灵性了。不知不觉地，你就变得灵性。这是最美妙的方式。
Family is a training ground where you rise beyond likes and dislikes. But because some people cannot get along with their families, they want to move into the ashram. I tell them, “If you find living with three people too challenging, you are not fit to live with 1,000 people!” If you are doing great with your family and you want to move into the ashram, that is great, you have passed the test. But if you cannot live with a few people, how are you going to live with 1,000 people?
家庭是一个让你超越好恶的训练场。但因为有些人无法和家人和睦共处，他们想搬到静修所去住。我告诉他们：“如果你发现和3个人一起住都很有挑战的话，那你就不适合与1000个人住在一起！”如果你和你的家人相处得很好而你想搬到静修所，那很棒，你已经通过了测试。但如果你不能和几个人住在一起，你又怎能和1000个人住在一起？
Above all, family is very important to fulfill your physical, psychological, financial and social needs. You formed an association that you call “family” to fulfill your needs. Do not forget this. Right now, you may feel like a sacrificial goat in the family. But everything that you do within the scope of the family need not work out just because you think they are your people — that is just your thought. They are just people. If you give yourself totally to them and make their lives beautiful, they will yield to certain things.
家庭对于满足你的身体、心理、财务及社会的需求是非常重要的。你创建了那个你称之为“家庭”的组织，是为了满足你的需求。别忘了这点。现在，你可能感觉在家庭中像一个牺牲品，但只是因为你认为他们是你的人，这并不能意味着你在家庭范围内所做的一切都会管用——这只是你的想法。他们只是人而已，如果你将自己完全给予他们，让他们的生命变得美丽，他们会开花结果的。
The beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion.
母性之美并非在于繁衍后代，母性之美在于包容。
More horrible things happen within the family in terms of anger, hatred and struggles than what happens between two enemy nations. I am not saying this is right or wrong. But you made your association for your needs to be fulfilled, and now you are expecting all the life that evolved out of this family to happen the way you want it to. This does not mean all of them must turn out the way you want them to be – they will not. Just remain in gratitude and do the best you can. “But they are suffering. I don’t want them to suffer.” Yes, we don’t want them to suffer. Not just because they are your family, we don’t want anybody to suffer. It is time that you enlarge your desire to all. “I don’t want anybody to suffer.”
家庭中发生的由愤怒、仇恨和斗争所引起的悲惨事件要超过两个敌国之间所发生的。我不是说这是对或错。但你组建了这个组织来满足你的需求，现在你期望这个家庭的生活完全要按照你想要的样子来发展。这并不意味着所有家庭成员都要变成你所期待的样子——他们不会。你仅仅需要保持感恩，并尽可能做到最好。“但他们在受苦，我不想让他们受苦。”是的，我们不想让他们受苦，不仅仅因为他们是你的家人——我们不希望任何人受苦。是时候将你的渴望扩大至所有人：“我不想任何人受苦。”
During the 20s, 40s and even 60s, family meant “crime” in America — the mafia. Even today, that is what it means. I want you to understand this, what you see as evil on this planet is not coming from some devilish source. It is human beings who think, “Only these three people belong to me. The rest don’t belong to me.” It is what they perceive as wellbeing for these three people that causes all the rubbish to everything else. It may be a family, community, race, religion or nation. It is this limited perspective of life that causes all the evil on this planet, and it starts with the family. Please expand your idea of family.
20、40甚至60年代，在美国，家庭意味着“犯罪”——黑手党。甚至是今天，家庭也是这个含义。我想让你们理解这一点，你在这个世界上看到的邪恶，并非来自什么邪恶的人，而是来自于人类的思考：“只有这三个人属于我，其余的人都不属于我。”正是他们认为会给这三个人带来福祉的东西，造成了对其它一切的伤害。不管你是局限于一个家庭、社区、种族、宗教或是国家，正是这种对生命有限的视角造成了地球上所有的邪恶，而这最初始于家庭。所以请扩展你关于家庭的定义。
Your children may have taken only one cell from you. But how much have you taken from this planet? How many cells? The whole of it, even if you cannot think beyond your biology! The planet and everything that comes out of it is more of a family than somebody who just took one cell from you. You may not like this at all, especially just after Mother’s Day, but the beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction. The beauty of motherhood is in inclusion. It is not because your mother reproduced you, bore you and let you out. That is not why a mother is precious. She is precious because, in many ways, she saw you as a part of herself. It is not the biology; it is the inclusiveness. Suppose your mother bore you and never bothered about you, she would be your worst enemy. It is not the biological process that is significant here. It is the willingness to include another life as part of yourself. It is that beauty we are trying to celebrate with Mother’s Day.
你的孩子从你身上拿了一个细胞，但你从这个地球拿走了多少？多少细胞？你的每一个细胞都是从这颗星球上拿走的。这颗星球和这里所有的一切，都比只是从你这里拿了一个细胞的人更是家人。你可能不愿意承认这一点，尤其现在刚过完母亲节，但我想说，母性之美不在于繁衍后代。母性之美在于包容。母亲十月怀胎孕育了你，把你生出来，这并不是母亲可贵的原因。她可贵是因为在很多层面，她把你看作是她自己的一部分。所以这不在于生物性，而在于包容性。假如你的母亲生下了你，但从不管你，她可能就成了你最坏的敌人。关键不在于生物的繁衍，而在于将另一个生命包容为自己的一部分的意愿。在母亲节我们想要庆祝的，正是那种美。
【思考】
学习：
学习是终身的事情，也是跟上时代潮流的唯一方式。不然，当出现状况的时候，会慌了阵脚，不知所措。
昨天，男朋友的爸爸丢了证件和银行卡。男盆友的妈妈气的不行，一顿数落。而他爸爸，则是开车出去找。
男朋友给我说，我第一想到的就是赶快挂失。
可大过年的，怎么挂失呢？长辈们想到的是去银行公安局现场挂失。但现在手机app其实可以直接挂失的。
但由于他们压根不会用银行的手机app，更别提在手机上挂失了。着急忙慌的打转转，也解决不了问题。
男朋友还在值班，也不在跟前，没法直接给操作。于是我找到了挂失操作发过去链接。后来，也不知道有米有操作完成。但至少，有了解决问题的方式。及时挂失，以将损失降到最小。避免带来更多不必要的麻烦。
所以你看，不跟着学习使用新的技术，当真遇到的时候，不会使用就会走很多的弯路，甚至一些浪费时间的操作。及时学习，就能够一下找到解决方法，不再做无用功。这也提醒了年轻人，时刻教会父母用一些最新必要的app以及新的技能，有助于必要的时候减轻自己的负担。
还有就是，银行卡和身份证，千万别戴在一起。一起丢了，好人还好，有的本来想返还，可看到两个一起在，不免就给对方提供了想做坏事的可能。分开放，或者一定需要拿的时候，一定拿好，别三心二意。
学习，是一直需要做的事情。也因为学习，掌握不断变化的技能，才能不被杂事所缠身。
【每日一句】
世事无常
【梦境】
没有
【每日反思与改过】
有时候，再坚持一下，说不定就有不一样的收获。
出现状况的时候，一定先冷静，降低损失。切不可着急忙慌，或者互相埋怨。解决问题是第一首要要考虑的事情。
