“选择不重要,关键是选择以后怎么做,那个process才是重要的。”
支配命运或被命运支配,选择命运或被命运选择。原来这都不重要。
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“你焦虑,因为你太有才了”,现代人的焦(jiao)虑(qing)大多来自于选择太多。
试想那些还在种地的农民,那些建筑工地上的工人,富士康流水线上的人们,哪有那么多无病的呻吟。因为除了努力生存下去,还有什么选项。
在工作中获取的经验告诉我,那些长期解决不好、给老板员工和用户都带来持久压力的项目,问题通常出在源头上。例如游戏规则的不合理,例如问题定义的模糊。
我持久的焦虑,来自于其实我对自己想要什么的定义是模糊的,我又不愿意按照别人set好的路径去走,而面对的选择又太多。恰好我还很幸运,尚存选择的权利。
最近意识到,人真是越声称着什么,越是缺乏什么。我的一次次主动地选择,都仿佛在提醒着我自己和看得到我的人,“她就是想成为一名产品设计师”。但当真正面对这一职业的时候,我犹豫了,迷失了。于是开始反思。然后开始承认,这种所谓的“知道自己想要什么”只是给自己的保护伞,以一直麻痹内心关于自我定位的不安。and,开始妥协,屡屡想起那句“要达到理想,先放下理想”。
毕淑敏:“人生是没有任何意义的——人生的意义靠你自己去创造”。to make sense,就像在我所在的行业里面一样,点子不值钱,落地了才值钱,人生也是要去行走了才会make sense。所以不要留太多的时间,给迷茫,给选择。——因为有人已早给出答案,这个答案就是:不用想了,就是花费再多的焦虑,也不会有答案。至少在人类生命时间太短,不足以给自己一个满意的答案。
当然不思考也是绝对行不通的。而是,把大部分时间留给奔跑,小部分时间留给停下来思考。奔跑的时间太短没有思考的养分,思考的时间太长容易产生焦虑。
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猜火车的片头:
“Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a career.Choose a family. Choose a big fucking television, choose washingmachines, cars, compact disk players and electrical tin openers…choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on the couch, watching mind-numbing,spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all,pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarassment to the selfish, fucked-up brats you spawned to replace yourself. Choose your future. Choose life. But why would I want to do a thing like that?”
猜火车的片尾:
“So why did I do it? I could offer a million answers, all false.The truth is that I'm a bad person, but that's going to change,I'm going to change. This is the last of this sort of thing. I'm cleaning up and I'm moving on, going straight and choosing life. I'm looking forward to it already. I'm going to be just like you: the job, the family, the fucking big television, the washing machine, the car, the compact disc and electrical tin opener, good health, low cholesterol, dental insurance, mortgage, starter home, leisurewear, luggage, three-piece suite, DIY, game shows, junk food, children, walks in the park, nine to five, good at golf, washing the car, choice of sweaters, family Christmas, indexed pension, tax exemption, clearing the gutters, getting by, looking ahead, to the day you die.”
CHOOSE LIFE.