Since I have realized my poor EQ at intimate relationship, I think it is necessary to learn it deliberately, treating it as one of the parts of my life.

自从意识到我自己在亲密关系中的捉襟见肘之后，我意识到需要好好学习这一块知识，并且将其视为我生活的一部分。

Here, I’d like to write down some thought of my learning.

所以，就以写作的方式学习吧！

1.Girl’s feelings

女生的情感状态

Girls, with nodoubts, they are totally different with boys who are born to be cared. Safety,warmness, romance which maybe some boys do not care are extremely important in their lives. That is why boys who know nothing about these have many difficulties finding a girlfriend. Think about this, taking care of flowers you even know the habits of flower, let alone getting along with girls.

无疑，女生和男生是不同的，女生天生就需要被关心。安全感、温暖、浪漫等这些有些男生不以为意的东西，对她们恰恰特别重要。这就是为什么对这一块知之甚少的男生很难找到女朋友的原因了。试想一下，即时我们平时养花，都需要知道花的习性，更何况与女生相处呢！

Feeling does matter much in the relationship. No matter what happens, take care of their feeling firstly, everything is OK if she is happy. Otherwise,everything seems to be wrong.

My girlfriend ever told me, every time we have conflicts,firstly she needs to be cared about her feeling. Then there are chances to focus to the things itself. If I tend to argue right and wrong despite her anger, with no doubt the situation will get worse and worse.

女生的情绪，在亲密关系的日常交往中特别重要。不管怎么样，先照顾情绪。她高兴了，什么都好说。否则，处处都是麻烦，不顺。我女朋友之前就告诉我，如果我们产生矛盾了，她的情绪是首先需要照顾好的，其次才能说事情的对错。如果我执意和她争辩谁对谁错，那么结果无疑会变得更糟。

So we boys must recognize the special emotional state of girls and treat it with another way.

所以，男生们，你们必须意识到女生的这种不同的情感状态，并且以不同于自己的方式对待。

2.Girls need romance.

她们需要浪漫

Girls need romance in their lives obviously which is formed by their emotional mechanism.Also, romance is the best symbol of your love to them. Of course, you need to prepare it with your heart.

很明显，女生在生活中需要浪漫，这是由她们的情感机制决定的。同时，浪漫也是最好的表达爱意的方式。当然，你需要用心准备浪漫，而不是敷衍了事。

The loving speech, such as "honey" ,"I love you","miss you" is also helpful.

爱的语音，如“亲爱的”、“我爱你”、“想你”等也是很有帮助的。

So，if you are not the romantic person, please learn to be a romantic person because this is the capability to give your partner happiness.

如果如果你不是一个懂浪漫的人，请学习成为一个浪漫的人把，因为这是一个对于对方幸福的能力。

To be honest, I did’t do it well before.And since I realize it I will do better.

实话说，我之前就不懂这些，但既然我意识到了，我就会逐渐做的更好。

3.The influence is mutual between lovers

爱人之间的影响是相互的

Think about this, the influence between lovers are mutual which could be called symbiosis.If you could learn to have high EQ and give your partner a happier life, that is so delightful and you and your family will be much delight and harmonious

试想一下，爱人之间的影响是相互的，是共生关系，一荣俱荣一辱俱辱。如果你能习得很高的情商，让你的伴侣很幸福，那也是一件愉悦的事情啊。同时，这也对你和你家庭的和谐、愉快很有帮助。

So please let yourself be a high EQ person.

所以，好好成为一个高情商的人吧。