日期：2021.03.15

【人物学习】

YY：

YY是近期认识的小伙伴。之前一直在月子中心工作。工资高，却也辛苦，经常会有夜班，身体就变得差了很多。后来就辞职了。

找一些学校的工作，当校医这样。可每次都是找好了，结果要去签合同的时候就出现了问题。被忽悠了，然后继续接着找。每次都这样，陷入到一个不停的找工作、辞工作的循环当中。每次都是几乎相同的原因被忽悠，要不就是合同与所说的不符。原来，她还没有考取相关医生的证件，所以前一个是原来那个医生又回来了，她就被剔除了。而后来一次说的好好的，人家以签这个合同是一样的为理由，想让她和那些老师都签同一份合同可内容完全和她所听到的不同，问题是她已经过去工作了，于是就显得很被动。

后悔说之前的工作也没有存下些钱，现在又陷入这种境地。于是又开始周六天兼职一些活动，寻找一些其他的契机，看看是否可以去更换工作。

以前真的很瘦的姑娘，现在变得很胖，还容易过敏。看她，啥时候都说笑嘻嘻的，听了她的故事，却又觉得可怜。

或许，她现在就被局限在某个怪圈之中，不停的循环着相同的事情。有时候，可能需要静下心来去分析下，为什么一直持续这样的状态，是否有办法去改善。不然，还会继续在这样的循环当中。为什么一直都是这样，是否也有自己的原因，还是对方因为什么状况总会带给自己这样的遭遇。应该怎样做，才能避免类似的事情发生，而不是不断被困扰。

【作品学习与读书】

迈克尔·杰克逊的天赋和错失的良机

Omarion: Dancing is something very special to me and spiritual for me. And I wanted to know, how, how do you see dance fitting in this spiritual space?

Omarion：跳舞对我来说很特别也很灵性，而我想知道，在您看来，舞蹈如何能契入灵性的空间？

Sadhguru: (Laughs) Well, I’ve… I've not, I'm sorry, I've not really seen you dancing, but people told me you're a great dancer (Laughter).

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：（笑）嗯，我还没，抱歉，我还没有真正看过你跳舞，但是人们告诉我你是个很棒的舞者。

Omarion: Just check me out, man (Laughter).

Omarion：您就查查看，哥儿们（笑声）。

Sadhguru: I will, I will check you out. I heard that tomorrow you're releasing some new album or something? I will check that out.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：我会的，我会查一查。听说明天你要出新专辑什么的？我会查一下的。

Omarion: Oh, “The connection.”

Omarion：噢，《连接》。

Sadhguru: A-ha.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：啊哈。

Omarion: Yeah, and it is, it is really, really cool. Ah, one of my biggest…

Omarion：是的，它真的、真的很酷。啊，我最大的……

Sadhguru: Ah, let me say that ah. You shouldn't say that yourself. I will watch it and tell you how cool it is (Laughter).

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：啊，让我说啊，你不该自己说出来。我会看专辑，再告诉你它有多酷（笑声）。

Omarion: Yeah, yeah. (Laughter) Okay, well, yeah, I recently got to travel to Michael Jackson's estate here in, in the valley. They call it “The Hayvenhurst Jackson Estate.” And I thought it was so amazing because the first concert that I ever went to as a child was a Michael Jackson concert. And I also got to mee… shake his hand and he has influenced my life.

Omarion：对对。（笑声）好的，我最近有机会来到这个位于山谷里的迈克尔・杰克逊的庄园，他们叫它“Hayvenhurst杰克逊庄园”，我觉得这太棒了，因为我小时候参加的第一个演唱会就是迈克尔・杰克逊的演唱会，我还跟他握手了，他影响了我的人生。

Sadhguru: Hey, you're supposed to shake a leg with him, not a hand (Laughter).

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：嘿，你应该跟他握个腿，而不是握手（笑声）。

Omarion: You know what, he was shooting a video, I didn't get the chance to shake a leg (Sadhguru laughs). But it was a very profound experience for me because I remembered, I remembered how much he has influenced my purpose in being a musician. A lot of, a lot of people make music to sell records and I've done that, you know, I started at the precious age of fifteen. That's when I put out my first album, I'll be thirty-six in actually like two weeks.

Omarion：你知道吗，他当时在拍一个视频，我没机会跟他握腿（萨古鲁笑）。但是这对我来说是一次非常深刻的经历，因为我记得，我记得他对我想要成为一名音乐人的影响有多大。很多人做音乐是为了卖唱片，我也做过这事，我在宝贵的15岁时就开始了。我就是在那时出了第一张专辑，实际上再过两周我就36岁了。

So, my, my purpose and my meaning for sharing and connecting with people all over the planet has continued to grow and change and it was so cool for my album, “The connection” to be able to go to the Hayvenhurst Estate and you know, speak about his influence. So, the album is a really meaningful album. And that's what I want to continue to do as an artist, is just continue to give people the tool to be positive and feel good with music. And one of the questions that I have was, um, a lot of… composing music, singing, dancing and performing on stage, um, is a spiritual thing. How can I tap into a deeper dime… dimensions of that in my life and…

我跟全球各地的人进行分享和连接的目的与意义一直在不断地发展和改变，我的专辑《连接》让我能走进Hayvenhurst庄园，并谈及他的影响，你知道，这很酷。所以，这真的是一张很有意义的专辑。而那就是我作为艺术家想继续去做的事情，就是继续给予人们工具去通过音乐变得积极并感觉良好。而我的一个疑问就是，许多……音乐创作、唱歌、跳舞和舞台表演都是灵性的事情，我怎样才能在我生命中进入它们更深的维度，还有……

Sadhguru: Now you piled up two questions, one on top of another man (Laughs).

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：现在你提了两个问题，一个接着另一个，哥们儿（笑）。

Omarion: Ok do one first, sorry, I got excited (Laughter). So, yeah…

Omarion：好，那先问一个，抱歉，我太兴奋了（笑声）。所以，是的……

Sadhguru: See, Michael Jackson had the power to inspire a whole generation of people. What he did was so unique and eye catching anywhere in the world. I'm telling you, in the remotest part of India, in some village where there is no… nothing, they know Michael Jackson. I mean, that's a level of inspiration, he brought in a whole lot of youth dancing like him in India (Laughs), in imitation of him. So that was a powerful possibility. But I'm sorry, if I say something that hurts anybody. But I feel his life could have been, you know, he could have made this into really transforming the world in some way. But unfortunately, I feel no proper guidance around him, no proper advisors, and all commercial people. 

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：瞧，迈克尔・杰克逊有着激励整整一代人的力量。他所做的事如此独特，在世界的任何地方都引人注目。我告诉你，在印度的边远地区，在一些一无所有的村庄里，人们都知道迈克尔・杰克逊。我是说，他就是给人那种程度的激励，他给印度带来了一大批像他那样跳舞的年轻人（笑），他们模仿他。所以那是一个强大的可能性。但是，很抱歉，如果我说的某些话会伤到任何人，但是我感觉他的人生本可以，他本可以让这一点以某种方式真正转化这个世界。但不幸的是，我感觉他身边没有恰当的指导，没有合适的顾问，而全是商人。

I think it went waste because just five days ago I was at the Elvis Presley’s museum in Memphis, as a part of the journey when we were coming back, we stopped at Memphis, also went to Martin Luther King's, you know, that place where the assassination happened. So, when I was at Elvis place also, that's what I thought. He also for two decades he dominated the music scene, inspired a whole generation of people, but his own life became a total mess, because there is no proper guidance. There is no balance. There is genius, but there is no balance. 

我认为这被浪费了，因为就在5天前我去了位于孟菲斯的猫王博物馆，作为我们回程的一部分，我们在孟菲斯停了停，还去了马丁・路德・金博物馆，你知道，就是暗杀发生的地方。所以，当我在猫王博物馆的时候，我也是这么想的。他也主导了音乐界20年，激励了整整一代人，但是他自己的生活变得一团糟，因为没有恰当的指导，没有平衡。有天赋，却没有平衡。

So, this is a sad story that's happened to a whole lot of great talent in the world, particularly in America, because people grow up on all the wrong things at a very early age. When I say wrong things, there is chemical influence, there is alcohol, there is all kinds of distractions, but we must understand this always that our intelligence, our competence, our genius, all these things are important. But for all of them to find expression in the world, the most fundamental thing is balance.

所以这是发生在这个世界上、尤其是美国的众多伟大天才身上的一个悲剧，因为人们从很小的时候就在所有错误的东西中长大。我所说的错误的东西，有化学影响，有酒精，有各种各样的干扰，但是我们始终必须明白这一点，我们的智慧、我们的能力、我们的天赋，所有这些东西都很重要，但为了让所有这些在世界上得以表达，最根本的东西是平衡。

Now you are a dancer. You asked what is the significance of dance, you can be as good a dancer as you are. But if there is no stable platform, you are not going to dance, isn't it? This is all life is. Whatever our dance is, whether we're going to dance on stage or in the office or wherever, in whichever form our dance finds expression in the world, the most important thing is a stable platform within ourselves, a balance. If this balance is missing, all talent, all competence, all genius, all, you know, whatever exuberant things you have, will go waste.

你是个舞者，你问到舞蹈的意义，你可以是一个很好的舞者。但是如果没有稳定的平台，你不会去跳，对吧？这就是生活，不管我们的舞蹈是什么，不管我们会在舞台上、办公室里还是任何地方跳舞，不管我们的舞蹈在世界上以何种方式表达，最重要的是我们内在有稳定的平台，有平衡。如果缺乏这种平衡，所有的才能、所有的能力、所有的天赋，不管你拥有什么充满活力的东西，都会被浪费掉。

So, both these personalities, one that you mentioned, Michael Jackson, and also Elvis Presley, are a classic example of this lack of balance. When there is such a massive talent, that you are capable of influencing an entire generation not in one country, across the world, when you have that, this could have been used to really create a new generation of people, new sort of planet, actually. You can, you could do this, you had the power to do that. It is just the lack of balance.

所以，这两个人，一个是你提到的迈克尔・杰克逊，还有猫王，都是缺乏平衡的典型例子，当你拥有如此巨大的才能，以至能够影响不只是一个国家而是全世界的整代人，当你有这种影响力时，它本可以用来真正创造出新的一代人，实际上几乎是新的星球；你本可以做到，你本来有能力做到这些的。只是缺乏平衡。

So, I am saying you Omarion, you better dance your way, as well as you can. Whatever it is, maybe it is not like everybody can be a Michael Jackson or we don't have to imitate that. But a new possibility in that sphere, because music and dance has such a significant influence on the youth. But bringing balance to yourself and bringing balance to everybody who gets in touch with you, these millions of youths who get in touch with you, I think is a fundamental responsibility, because when you have the power to influence other people's lives, you must ensure that the influence is very positive and it is toward their well-being, never against their well-being.

所以，我说你，Omarion，你最好按你的方式跳舞，尽可能地跳好。不管是什么样子，也许并不是每个人都能成为迈克尔・杰克逊，或者我们不必模仿他。但在那个领域是一个新的可能性，因为音乐和舞蹈对年轻人有着如此重大的影响，但是给你自己和每个与你接触的人带来平衡，这几百万与你接触的年轻人，我认为这是一个基本的责任，因为当你有能力影响别人的生命时，你必须确保这种影响是非常积极并有利于他们的幸福，绝不是违背他们的幸福。

So, having said that about, you asked about dance, what's the significance of dance?

所以，谈到这点，你问及舞蹈，舞蹈的意义何在？

Omarion: Whoa, come on now. Oh, come on now. That's, that's the truth. I'm sorry. But I had to just balance, this is so important, this is so important.

Omarion：哇，快讲吧。噢，现在就讲。真的是那样。很抱歉。但我必须得有平衡，这太重要了，这太重要了。

Sadhguru: So, in terms of dance, see (Laughs), I must tell you this. We come from a culture where all our Gods dance. Everywhere else, God is a serious guy (Laughs), very serious guy. But in India, if a man… if he doesn't dance, we won't treat him as a god. All Indian Gods male and female always dance, because if they can't dance, he can't be God (Laughter). Because dance essentially means that life is happening at… See, dancing in a particular style is a different matter. If you do not know this, my, my daughter is a full, you know, full-time classical dancer, Indian classical dancer. I took her off education and put her into this because it meant so much to us that you know, what is dance is not just entertainment.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：所以，说到舞蹈，瞧（笑），我必须告诉你这一点。在我们的文化中，所有的神都跳舞。在所有其它地方，神是个严肃的家伙，非常严肃。而在印度，如果一个人……如果他不跳舞，我们不会待他为神。所有印度的神，不管是男神还是女神，总会跳舞，因为他们如果不能跳舞，他就不是神。因为舞蹈本质上意味着生命发生在……瞧，以特定的风格跳舞是另一回事。如果你不知道这事，我女儿是个全职古典舞蹈演员，印度古典舞演员。我让她脱离主流教育让她去学舞蹈，因为这对我们来说意义重大，舞蹈不仅仅是娱乐。

So, if you're doing a particular style of dance, it's one thing. Otherwise, even a child will get up and dance. When it feels exuberant, it's the exuberance of life, finding expression is dance. When body cannot keep quiet, it wants to do something exuberant, it will dance. Well, you guys have might have evolved your own kind of styles. And I don't know you slide on the… do you do all that like Michael Jackson (Laughter) was doing and, those are all you know, what do you say many methods of doing it. But essentially, it's the exuberance of the physical self, that the best way the body can express itself is dance. The highest way the body can express itself is dance actually, because that is the highest level of exuberance it finds.

所以，如果你是跳某种特定风格的舞，那是另一回事。否则，连一个孩子都会起舞。当人感到活力充沛时，生命的活力就会以舞蹈表达出来。当身体无法沉默，它想要做些活跃的事时，它就会跳舞。嗯，你们可能形成了自己的风格。我不知道你是不是滑步……你跳的都是像迈克尔・杰克逊的那种吗，那都是怎么说，有很多做法。但本质上都是身体自身的活力，身体能够表达自身的最好方式就是舞蹈。身体能够表达自身的最高形式实际上就是舞蹈，因为那是它找到的最高层次的活力。

So, for this, also, you know, balance is most important. If you want to dance well, the most important thing is balance. But most people dance only when they're drunk (Laughter). We have a night long festival once a year, nearly a million people, last time 870,000 people attended this event. And it is telecast nationwide in over hundred channels in India and all this, but full night from evening six to morning six, no alcohol, no drug, none of these things are there, you know, anywhere come near us. But entire night the whole crowd will sing and dance, okay.

所以，为此，你也知道，平衡是最重要的。如果你想跳得好，那么最重要的东西是平衡。但是大多数人只在喝醉的时候才跳舞。我们每年都有一个通宵庆祝的节日，近100万人，上一次有87万人参加了这场活动。它在印度全国超过100个频道上播放，一整夜，从晚上6点到第二天早晨6点，不喝酒，不磕药，这些东西都不跟我们沾边。但是一整晚整个人群会又唱又跳。

Omarion: Wow. I have to see it. I have to see it.

Omarion：哇喔。我一定要去看看。我必须去看看。

Sadhguru: I think you must come and see.

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：我想你必须来看看。

Omarion: Yes, I will… I might…

Omarion：是的，我会的……我可以……

Sadhguru: I’ll ask them to send you some videos (Laughs).

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：我会让他们给你发些视频（笑）。

Omarion: Yes, I have to, I have to experience this, wow, that’s amazing.

Omarion：是的，我必须体验一下，哇喔，太棒了。

Sadhguru: See, without the exuberance of… when your emotion becomes exuberant, maybe you will sing. I'm not saying a practice singer or a professional singer, when emotion becomes exuberant, people want to sing. Even those who don't know anything to sing, they will also do something hmm, hmm, hmm, you know, at least they will hum. When the physical self becomes very exuberant, it naturally dances. That's how it should be. Well, styles of dancing and other things are a different matter. There is culture in it, there are various aspects to it. But essentially, dance is an outpouring of one's life's exuberance. Life energy is exuberant. So, we don't consider somebody divine or godly unless their life energies are exuberant and overflowing (Laughs).

Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：瞧，如果没有活力……当你的情感充满活力，你可能会唱歌。我说的不是业余歌手或职业歌手，当情感充满活力时，人就想唱歌。甚至那些什么也不会唱的人，他们也会哼哼，至少他们会哼。当身体自身非常有活力，它自然会跳舞。它就应该是那样。跳舞风格和其它东西则是另外一回事。那涉及到文化，涉及很多方面。但本质上，舞蹈是一个人生命活力的迸发，其生命能量是生机勃勃的。所以，除非一个人的生命能量迸发着活力，否则我们不认为他是神性的或神圣的（笑）。

【思考】

名节：

红楼梦里总有各种各样的丫头，因为名节，而以死了结。

金钗、司琪、晴雯、尤二姐、尤三姐、秦可卿等等。

现在想来，会觉得说，好死不如赖活着着，怎么那么想不开。但是放在那个大背景下，确实无可奈何之选择。

金钗作为贾府的丫鬟，被王夫人那么说，赶出去意味着名节不保，也不会有其他人家可以要她，就相当于她毁了。虽然王夫人只是气气她，可对于金钗来说，就是没有了退路。如果她走出贾府，那就意味着没有了未来。所以跳井了。跳井了，王夫人开始后悔，宝玉也挨了打。可是人呢，已经没有了。死的可惜却也是无可奈何。

司琪也是，被赶回了家，好歹还有个表哥。可她母亲却死活不同意，说出那样的话，宁可她死了。于是她撞墙死了。真不知道为什么做母亲的会对自己的女儿说出那样恨的话。享不了荣华富贵，也可以平平安安过小日子呀，好歹嫁了人也是好的呀。为什么一定要去向荣华富贵才是女孩子真正的归宿呢？哎，多么可怜的孩子。却因为藏了男人的东西而葬送了性命，放到现在真的觉得可笑至极。

晴雯，真的是好冤。就是因为长得太美，生病那么重，硬生生被赶了回去。没有人照顾，硬是被病死了。看似妖精的压根没有碰过宝玉，看似守本分的却早已与宝玉发生了关系。真的是，怨。可又怎样，奈何别人都是看脸来决定的呢？

尤二姐，明明一个挺好的人，却硬生生被逼的走投无路。断了孩子，也断了自由，深宫大院，也奈何不了，贾琏也无法庇佑她，她又如何继续活下去。只能一死了之。吞金而死，多么痛，却也只能是唯一的选择。

尤三姐，真的是性子足够烈。爱一个人，明明对方都许了承诺。却因为贾府里没有个干净的种，被悔婚。拿着对方的剪自刎。对方也后悔了却也为时晚矣。

秦可卿呢，当秘密被发现，可怎有脸面继续活下去呢。

这些女性们，都在因为某些名节，通过死来保全自己，却忘记了死只不过是自我的一个了结，又对他人有何影响呢？当然了，有怨无处诉，也没有办法去寻找更好的方案，只能是以死保全，却也是看似最简单的方式。但或许这也都是强加在他们身上的一种枷锁，一种禁锢，不可跨越的部分。而这样的规矩，也几乎无人性，自然随着他们的掉落，也逐渐的没落了。因为毫无根据可言。为保全其中的一两个人就要损失其他人所有的利益，明显也是不妥当的。

而名节，何时能够不再成为一种枷锁的存在。或许会有一些不同的变化吧。

【每日一句】

让自己逐渐变得平和起来。

【梦境】

应该是没有的，但是晚上好像热醒了

【每日反思与改过】

昨天感觉一整天都晕乎乎的，于是没有完成该完成的部分。总想着去晒晒太阳，散散步，于是干脆出去逛了逛公园。回来状态会好一点，但基本也就晚饭时间点了，就没有再继续学习了。所以觉得说，应该适当安排周末时间，确保足够的接触大自然，散心，然后再回归到学习当中。不是强迫性的学习，而是高效率的学习。

今天早起晚了一些，让师傅等我了大概2min。其实完全可以早点起，慢慢悠闲的坐车，而不是着急忙慌的状态，事事忙事事慌，整个状态就很慌了。