问：亲爱的古儒吉，我丈夫很爱我，但他仍然不错过任何机会来数落我的负面特质。我的热忱下降了。我应该怎么办？
古儒吉：妳应该以不同的行径。给他惊喜。
如果他数落妳的负面特质，妳要给他许多的爱、情意和赞美！告诉他：「哇，你说的完全对！这正是我想要听的！」
不要总是做出同样的反应。妳可以选择妳想要做出的行径，不是吗？某天当他带花给妳并且赞美妳的时候，皱起眉头对他说：「你为什么这么做？」当他责骂妳的时候，要感到高兴。
记住一件事，妳是为妳自己的快乐负责。不论发生什么事情，不论谁说什么话，要保护妳的心智，并且保持快乐。妳要下定决心:「我不会让我的快乐被任何人拿走！即使是神来到对着我吼叫，我会告诉神：『谢谢你，这是你给我的礼物。』」
今天就下定这个决心。
今天是Vaisakhi。它是给你的礼物。这份礼物是什么？不论发生什么事情，我不会让我的心智掉入玛亚(maya幻象)；掉入这个不断变化的相对世界里。我要为我的快乐负责。我不会让任何人搞垮我的快乐。你带着这个决心离开然后看看会发生什么事情。无论如何，你有这个地方可以回来，一次一次又一次。当衣服脏了，我们把它洗一洗，或者干洗。这（静心所）是个很好的洗衣机，它可以洗干净所有的东西。
Q：Dear Gurudev, my husband loves me a lot, and still he does not miss a single opportunity to count my negative qualities. My enthusiasm goes down. What should I do?
Sri Sri: You should behave differently. Give him a surprise.
If he counts your negative qualities, you shower a lot of love, affection, and praises on him! Tell him, 'Wow, you said it absolutely right! This is what I wanted to hear!'
Don't react the same way all the time. You have a choice of acting the way you want to act, isn't it?
Someday when he brings you flowers and compliments you, frown at him and say, 'Why did you do this?' When he scolds you, feel happy about it.
Remember one thing, you are responsible for your happiness. Come what may, whoever says whatsoever, you protect your mind, and keep yourself happy. You be determined, 'I am not going to let my happiness be taken away by anybody! Even if God comes and yells at me, I will tell God, 'Thank you, this is your gift to me.''
Make this determination today.
Today is Vaisakhi. It is a gift to you. What is the gift? Come what may, I will not let my mind slip down in the maya; in this ever-changing relative world. I am responsible for my happiness. I will not let anybody bring down my happiness. You go with this determination and see what happens. Anyway, this place is there for you to come back, again and again and again. When clothes get dirty, we give it for washing, or dry-cleaning. This (ashram) is a good washing machine, it cleans everything.
