先做人,后做事
Having Character Is More Important Than Having Skills
Day 96 S解读论语之Day 80
【原文】
8.4 曾子有疾,孟敬子问之①。曾子言曰.“鸟之将死,其鸣也哀;人之将死,其言也善。君子所贵乎道者三:动容貌,斯远暴慢矣:正颜色,斯近信矣:出辞气,斯远鄙倍矣②。笾豆之事③,则有司存④。”
【注释】
①孟敬子:鲁国大夫仲孙捷。
②鄙倍:鄙陋,错误。倍,通“背”,背理,错误。
③笾(biān)豆:祭礼中使用的器皿,笾是竹制的,豆是木制的。笾豆之事,在此代表礼仪中的一切具体细节。
④有司:主管祭祀的官吏。
【翻译】
曾子生病了,孟敬子去探问他。曾子说:“鸟将要死时,鸣叫声是悲哀的;人将要死时,说出的话是善意的。君子所应当注重的有三个方面:使自己的容貌庄重严肃,这样就可以避免别人的粗暴和怠慢;使自己面色端庄严正,这样就容易使人信服;讲究言辞和声气,这样就可以避免粗野和错误。至于礼仪中的细节,自有主管部门的官吏在那里。”
【解读】
1, 先做人,后做事。
2,曾子又生病了,感觉曾子老生病。估计这次病得有点重,鸟之将死,其鸣也哀;人之将死,其言也善。听听曾子临终时说的什么重要的话。
这也是是曾子对孟敬子讲执政要修身的道理,修身治国平天下,欲做大事必先修身。
修身则做好3样:1要注意个人形象,2是注意面部表情,3是注意个人谈吐。至于其他专业的事,有专家去处理。
3,细节决定成败。其实日常的修行是很重要的。生活中,很多人活得很糙,他们只注重做事,跟头牛似的埋头苦干,而不太在乎一些细节,让人感觉就是一个“工具人”,很无趣。
教育方面,我们对孩子不应该只是学习方面的要求,应该是先学会为人,把自身的行为修好,再去谈学业的事。
做人远远比做事重要得多。
The philosopher Tseng being ill, Meng Chang went to ask how he was.
Tsang said to him, When a bird is about to die, its notes are mourful; when a man is about to die, his words are good. There are three principles of conduct which the man of high rank should consider specially important---that in his deportment and manner he keep from violence and heedlessness; that in regulating his countenance he keep near to sincerity; and that in his words and tones he keep far from lowness and impropriety.
As to such matters as attending to the sacrificial vessels, there are the proper officers for them.